So over the past 2 years I've discovered that I like fat furries. I don't know why, I just found that bellies on a guy can be really attractive. Recently, I've put on a bunch of weight due to the medication my doctors put me on. 85 lbs to be exact. My parents are pointing out that I'm going to have to work out and diet after I get off the medication but there’s a part of me that doesn't want to. I like the fact that I'm carrying more weight on me and ill probably put on more weight before (and after) I get off the medication. This thought is making me somewhat nervous though. Is it weird for me to want to be/get fatter?
Big Furry (age 22)
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Dear Big Furry,
Anyone who knows Papabear knows that he likes his guys big Big BIG, so I completely empathize with your enjoyment of fat furries. (Can you say “adiposity”? I knew you could :-) ). Like any other preference that people have about what they consider to be attractive, there is not necessarily a rhyme or reason to it. People have all kinds of preferences, from athletic to nerdy, slim to fat to muscular, hair color, skin color, and on and on. As you likely know, there are entire communities out there who like to share their love of big people, both men and women. So, quick answer: there is absolutely nothing wrong with your liking “overweight” or “obese” people.
Now we get into the health issue. As you also probably are aware, there are a lot of Americans who tilt to the high side of the BMI. The First Lady launched a campaign called Let’s Move (www.letsmove.gov) to increase awareness of the issue. Americans are increasingly at risk for problems such as heart disease and type 2 diabetes because of their weight.
HOWEVER, the mistake many people make is associating weight with fitness. The two do not necessarily go hand in hand, you might be surprised to learn. The issue here is not weight so much as the level of activity, and, yes, you can become obese by sitting on your butt all day and eating. But! You can also be a big person and be physically fit! (Yowsa!)
To back up this statement, here are some relevant quotes:
"Active obese individuals actually have lower morbidity and mortality than normal weight individuals who are sedentary … the health risks of obesity are largely controlled if a person is physically active and physically fit."
Therefore, while your parents’ concern for you has some validity, you don’t necessarily have to be skinny to be fit. What is important here is that your level of activity is high. Now, you have gained weight, apparently, because of a medical condition. I don’t know what your condition is, but you should always consult your doctor before starting a physical regimen, especially in cases like yours.
Ways to bulk up: you will want to do some aerobic exercise (10 min a day at least) to maintain cardiovascular health, but combine this with weight training. Drink a glass of whey protein mixed with milk before each workout. Combine this with high-calorie but healthy foods. Eat lean meats, legumes, and nuts for proteins (avoid red meats), and cook foods in olive oil (Papabear LOVES olive oil!) Canola oil is okay, but I think olive oil rocks. Other foods that are high in good fats include: avocados, nuts, seeds, peanut butter, almond butter, and hummus. At all costs, avoid high fructose corn syrup and artificial sweeteners; they are poison to your body; processed white sugar is also not so great; use honey. Use Stevia (Truvia) to add some sweetness to foods, and/or fruit and fruit juices (drinking juice is a good way to add calories, while also consuming healthy vitamins). If your doctor says your cholesterol is okay, you can also add cheeses, yogurts, and whole grain breads and crackers to your diet. Finally, instead of eating three meals a day, eat six. Yes, six. But these meals will be slightly smaller than usual. The point is to eat more often. Again, you can discuss this with your doctor.
To sum up: no, it is not weird for you to want to get fatter, but do so in a healthy way and you can enjoy being big without the negative consequences normally associated with being obese.
The 85 pounds you have put on right now probably were not added in a good way. So, you do need to put in some work, but if you’re motivated enough you can do it.
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