My question is: How old is too old?
I'm a 30 year old Australian male who has been sitting on the sidelines of furry subculture. Only recently have I decided to become more active in the community (via chats/IM/etc.) and with an ultimate goal to attend the U.S. conventions with a fully realized fursona/fursuit.
My question relates to my concerns with my age. From what I have noticed, furries tend to be younger (average 10 years) and I feel apprehensive with socializing and interaction as my thought processes tend to revolve around "aren't you too old for this?" or "will I have difficulty with furries more closer to my age who have been fursuiting for many years (group exclusion)?"
I know the community highly inclusive, however, I worry that there may be underlying sentiments among the community that I'm not aware of.
Will my age be a non-issue, or is there any merit to my concerns as I do worry about my age being a point of contention; especially since attending US conventions as international furry is a big enough hurdle.
Apologies for the long winded letter.
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Dear Antares NaE,
Your letter is by no means long-winded, so no worries. And, if your age of 30 were an issue, I would be in real trouble at 47 (48 soon). When you say that furries tend to be younger, and then parenthetically add “(average 10 years)” I’ll assume you mean they average about 10 years younger than you and not 10 years old :-3.
Yes, the majority of furries are in their teens and twenties. That’s because people of that age group are still often in touch with their childlike, creative sides, which has a lot to do with being furry and its appeal. We love animated films and TV shows, fantasy and sci-fi books, comic books and graphic novels, video and online games, and the like. These things are typically associated with younger audiences. And many of the furries you see around now who are young will leave the fandom when they reach their 30s or 40s, deciding that furry is too immature for them.
Then there are the hardcore furries. These are the people who are furry to the bone, and they will remain furry until the day they die because being a furry isn’t just something they do, it is something they ARE. Older furries are special because they manage to survive the adult world while still keeping touch with their inner child. It’s sort of a Peter Pan Syndrome thing perhaps LOL.
Anyway, you should have no trouble finding friends in the fandom. In case you were unaware, furries who are 30 and over are known as greymuzzles (I agree that’s a little young to be considered old, but, again, it has to do with demographics). You can find greymuzzle groups online at places like Furry4Life and Facebook (I founded a greymuzzle FB group, actually). These groups will all welcome you with open arms, never fear.
Furcons in the U.S. (and I’m assuming you are aware that Australia has Confurgence in Melbourne) often include a forum for greymuzzles, so I would check out the program schedule of the con you plan to attend and see if they have a greymuzzle meet.
As for only becoming active recently in the fandom, that’s okay, too. Whether young or old, many in the fandom have only been active for fewer than five years. Take yours truly. While I consider myself a lifelong furry (having been into it as a child before I was familiar with the term) I have only really been active since my early 40s. There are a lot of greymuzzles like you and me, Antares.
So, while your age does set you apart somewhat from the younger furries, you will have no trouble whatsoever integrating into the furry community. Indeed, probably a lot of American furries will find your Australian accent and international perspective charming and intriguing. See if you can connect with some greymuzzles who will, hopefully, be at the convention(s) you plan to attend, and you will have a grand time. You are never too old to be a furry.
Holy Moley! I'm almost twice your age!
5/24/2023 05:56:15 am
Hello, I'm a greymuzzle, but a lot older, I am 52, I am new at this. I am looking to go to my first convention and I am a child at heart, I am afraid that the younger furries will not except me.
I was older than you when I first went to a furcon. Some younger folk are cool with older furs, and many are uncomfortable with someone their parent's age. In my experience letting them lead on getting to know you is the best way to go.
8/16/2013 10:20:43 am
Papabear.. We are buying Antares a drink when we meet him a future con. He can help me push my walker :)
8/16/2013 11:44:02 pm
dear Antares NaE
8/18/2013 02:42:19 pm
Well, I can tell you that I've had mixed experiences as far as being an older fur(just crossed that 30 mark a few months ago). I attended RMFC a few weeks ago and while I can say the majority of furs were significantly younger, there were also older furs present. My primary friends in the fandom are mostly in the 26-32 bracket, but I also saw a smattering of folks in their 40s, 50s, and even their 60s.
Jeff W Dearman
10/19/2020 06:27:57 pm
30 is not old . wait till you turn 43 like me
8/19/2013 11:45:00 pm
In my experience it has more to do with maturity level than age. There are plenty furries to be found at any maturity level, and it's not necessarily age-dependent.
Jeff W Dearman
10/19/2020 06:27:26 pm
30 isn't that old. But when is too old too old for the furry fandom?
Never too old! I know folks over 70 who are active in the furry world. Only problem is the dumb virus has shut down all the cons here in the US. We need to crush it so we can go back to having fun like they are in New Zealand.
2/17/2021 03:51:12 pm
I think this topic will always be kinda relevant.
Nicely said, Dragonclaw. The part about being yourself is so true in my experience.
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