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Why Should or Shouldn't You Date a Furry?

12/12/2013

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Dear Papabear and fellow readers,

It's been quite some time since we've last chatted, but something has been on my mind for the past few days, and I thought I'd ask you and your readers about it. This isn't so much a personal problem as it is asking someone's opinion.

Skipping right along to the question, why or why not would you date another furry?

I realize this is a very short and to the point question, but there's literally no big story behind it. Like I said, it's a question for you and your readers to all answer, not a personal issue. So, go ahead and voice your opinion.

Again, this is for anyone to answer as they see fit. :)

Holiday wishes to all,

Sil

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Hi, Sil,

As with any other kind of relationship, whether or not it is a good choice to date someone all depends on who you are and who the other person is on a deeper level than furriness. It’s really unfair to say “all furries are like this” and so I would/would not date one. No two furries are the same. That said, let’s talk generalities.

The advantage of dating a furry if you are a furry yourself is that you have something in common. You are more likely to be able to relate to each other and like doing the same things together.

The disadvantages....? I really can’t think of any.

To add a corollary to the question: if you are a furry, should you limit yourself to dating only other furries? And the answer to that would be “No, but if the other person is not a furry they should be comfortable with the fact that you are one.”

So, readers, what do you think? Sil asked for your opinions, too, not just mine. Feel free to chime in.

Papabear

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Shirkahn Wolfbane
12/12/2013 01:31:16 pm

It's actually up to the person if he/she wants to date a furry. Like you said, not all furries are the same. IMO, I would date a lady furry just because we would have so much in common and we can go to all the cons together. Sil, just do what you think is right and go with you gut. If you think you would be happy then do it.

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Wandering Writer
12/14/2013 11:10:17 am

Considering that my mate didn't even realize he was a furr until I met him and saw it, I'm not quite sure if I would qualify to answer. I will say that it is easier to be a mate with a furr if you are one yourself. Or, if you do have a potential mate in a non-furr, they should be comfortable and familiar with the furr society. Here is wishing everyone a peaceful, and loving, Holidays.

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