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What Is the "True" Definition of Otherkin and Therian?

7/26/2013

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Hi Mr. Bear,

I'm looking to get a better knowledge of the Otherkin / Therian groups. 

The main issues is all info I've found are basically just pieces of other "religions / way of thought" that are twisted to fit in the context.

I know your Paganist therefore I'm pretty sure you'll understand my "request."

I would like to know if you are aware of any site / forum / FB group that have information's about Therian and/or Otherkins that is just not Twisted info from other believes systems.

Or are they just that, an amalgam of other believes "twisted" into something "new"?

Thank you to have too the time to my question.

Best regards,

Anonymous

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Greetings,

I signed you as “Anonymous” to protect your identity more than just your fursona name because I want to respond to your letter on the website. 

Papabear hears you saying that you are searching for what is the “ultimate” truth or definition of a Therian and for Otherkin because the sites you are finding on the Web are “twisted” to fit the perspective, I suppose, of each particular site’s creator.

This might be news to you, hon, but all belief systems are “twisted” to fit the views of those who create them. Whether you are talking about a religion, a philosophy, or a belief in elves or werewolves or, as I believe, a spiritual connection to them, these are all worldviews that come from us and, therefore, are all “twisted” based upon our experiences and our character.

Papabear’s understanding, when it comes to Otherkin, is that they believe they harbor the spirits of elves or fairies, or sometimes creatures like dragons or demons, that have originated from another world or parallel universe (well, that is one interpretation; there are others, probably); and Therians believe they can, in some manner, transform into another creature, sometimes physically, sometimes spiritually/mentally, depending on what they are, or simply that they, too, harbor the spirit of an animal within them, but these animals are based on creatures we see in this world, such as wolves or bears, instead of “mythological” beings. Some Therians believe in the idea that one can become a Therian and others believe you are born Therian. A better explanation can be found in the excellent Wikifur website at http://en.wikifur.com/wiki/Otherkin. Even within the Otherkin and the Therian communities, there is debate about what it means to be an Otherkin or Therian; some people even say there is no big difference between the two (Granny Smith vs. Fuji Apples, instead of apples vs. oranges). 

In short, you will never find an ultimate truth about either one because there is none. This is not an atypical phenomenon in our world, either. People seem intent upon dividing themselves into every more individuated groups based upon their interpretations. That’s why, for example, the Christian Church divided into Catholics and Protestants, and then the Protestants further divided themselves into various denominations ad infinauseum.

This is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it is a good thing that people keep wondering about their world and coming up with new ways to try to understand it. This indicates a dynamic search for the Truth rather than a stagnant one. If you are a seeker of Truth, it would benefit you to learn about all of these schools of thought and then, once you have gathered the information, consider it carefully and draw your own conclusions. 

Remember, a well-considered and hard-earned belief system is better than a belief system that is simply parroted based upon what others have told you to believe. The information you get from books or the Web or from listening to others speak is the brick and mortar you can use to construct your own faith and philosophy. Some bricks you will find good and solid (e.g., The Golden Rule), while others you may wish to discard (e.g., priests can earn money, nuns cannot). The structure you may build might even have to be torn down once or twice and rebuilt again and again until you are happy with the results. (Then, as they say in my corner of the world, “It’s time to decorate!” JK)

So, no, Papabear does not know of any website that will satisfy your question about Otherkin and Therians. What is beautiful is you have the power inside you to discover your own truth.

Hugs,

Papabear
2 Comments
A Friendly Kitsune
7/28/2013 02:09:03 pm

Hi Papabear, Anonymous

It sounds to me from this letter that Anonymous isn't necessarily looking to find the "Truth" about Otherkin/Therian issues, but a place to discuss these issues that doesn't have a particular dogma attached. As a furry who is also part of the Otherkin/Therian community, I have a couple of suggestions that might be good places for Anonymous to check out. Both of them are rather quiet, but I've found that if you post a question you do get some pretty good discussions going, and are pretty respectful of different perspectives.

Werespace - ( http://www.werespace.net/ ): This place is mostly focused on therians, but there are a few otherkin here as well, and the membership does skew a bit younger. However, there are some good perspectives here to be found, and I've noticed that this place seems to focus more on the day-to-day issues that Otherkin/Therians might experience rather than spirituality, although that's discussed as well. Here was where I learned that some Therians see their animal side in totally mental rather than spiritual terms. I also really like that only members can see others posts, and setting up an account is easy. (It used to be invite-only, but I'm sure it's changed.)

Kitsuhana - ( http://kitsuhana.org/ ): This place does have a more "mystical" bent, as it started off as a forum for kitsune-identified Otherkin (which was what attracted me there) but has since opened its doors to other types of Otherkin/Therians as well. There are a wide variety of perspectives here, some members are Pagan and Shinto but others are more agnostic. Be aware though that this is a public forum that is searchable, so you may want to be careful how you present yourself.

As Papabear said, there really isn't an end-all-be-all "Truth" to being Otherkin/Therian. I would add that that's because it's an identity rather than a spirituality/religion, and people interpret their identities differently. Some see being Otherkin/Therian as a spiritual thing, that they have "the soul of" an elf/dragon/wolf/etc or that they were one in a past life. Others see it as a purely psychological part of themselves, that they have a part of them that's like another being or animal that needs to be expressed somehow in order to be happy and well-adjusted mentally. You can be any type of spirituality, or even agnostic/atheist, and still be Otherkin/Therian. I hope this helps Anonymous with their question!

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Papabear
7/29/2013 01:36:02 am

Thanks for the comment! Very useful!

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