Update about Jim
I found out yesterday that Jim died of a blood clot in his lung. From what I understand, he went very quickly and, I believe, suffered very little.
His father asked me to donate Jim's body to medical research, where Jim will once more prove himself the most giving man I've ever known. He will then be cremated and his ashes returned to me. A very small ceremony will be conducted aboard a ship near Catalina Island, where we will give his ashes to the dolphins and they can swim with him because Jim loved the island and the ocean so much. I am going to keep some of the ashes, too, so he will be with me in some physical form, as well as spiritually.
After the holidays, I will also hold a memorial service in Palm Springs and invite friends and family to celebrate this man whose heart and soul were larger than life.
Please understand that I am going to need some time to be sad and to mourn my love. I need to endure the grieving process. I need to believe that Jim's spirit has been reunited with his first husband, Scott, who died many years ago. Together, they will dance on a disco floor and hold each other and, I think, wait for me and I will see them again, but in the meantime I am missing him so much.
If you would like to do anything in Jim's honor, please make a donation in the name of Jim Fordyce to the St. Jude's Children's Research Hospital at this link:
I will return to the column when I can recover some. I know you will all understand.
11/4/2015 05:08:46 pm
Sorry to hear about your loss. I had a very close friend-- close enough for me to consider family-- pass away about a week after I got back from Fur Reality this past month.
11/11/2015 11:15:41 am
I'm terribly sorry about your loss... I will definitely be sending my prayers for you, Jim, and all his loved ones. Just remember it is not the amount of years in a life that matters, it is the amount of life in the years you have that truly counts.
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