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Trolls (updated 9-22-16)

9/21/2016

43 Comments

 
Hello, Dear Readers.

​Well, Papabear was trolled once again. This particular troll was quite clever. He tried to portray himself as someone needing my help, someone desperately trying to make sense out of life. But when I tried to give him some positive advice, he not only slammed me down but viciously attacked me to the point I had to finally block him.

I will be honest here: I just don't get trolls. Papabear tries hard to always see the good side of people. I try to see that, if they act badly, there is a reason for it, such as they have had a very painful life and are lashing out.

But after three or four experiences with trolls, I have to come to the conclusion, sad as it might be, that there are, in fact, some people out there who are simply giant assholes unworthy of any respect. (Yes, I know, trolls feed off reactions, even reactions like this one, but I wanted to have some closure here before initiating a policy in which I will simply no longer reply in any form to trolls).

Curious, I did a little research and found this article, which sums it up rather nicely. Trolls are twisted, sadistic, nasty people who get their jollies out of hurting others. This makes them the worst possible kind of people in my book.

So, to all you trolls out there, this is for you. Despite all your efforts, you will not shake my resolve to help others, you will not put a stop to this column, and you will not make me lose my faith in love and the Great Spirit.

You no longer upset me. I no longer worry about why you are the way you are. And, unlike the other wonderful people who write to me, I no longer care about you and will no longer try to help you (and that's coming from an empath!) Congratulations. You have officially alienated the last furry on the planet who might have given a damn about you.

You can kiss my...
P.S. I'm leaving the comments posted below. Apparently, I have been writing this column for nearly five years only because I need validation from other people and to feel important because I am emotionally damaged. Gee, thanks a lot. This is the thanks I get for spending hundreds of hours trying to help people? Really? REALLY? Someone tries to help others and bares his soul online in an effort to show that he has empathy for others and he gets nailed as an egotistical jerk?

You know what? I wake up every morning crying my eyes out because Jim is dead. At night I lay down in an empty bed (well, except for sweet Ernie the Wonder Dog), and yet I drag myself to the keyboard and try to help people because it is the only way I feel I have any meaning in my life anymore.

If that makes me a bad person who is only doing this to suck validation out of strangers, then I guess I'm a selfish, needy twerp.

Thanks for pointing that out, Rouge and Lego Man.

BOTTOM LINE is this (and, Rouge, since you're so concerned about evidence, this is for you in particular): this column HAS helped people. And, yes, I am proud of that.

What have YOU done to make this world that you complain about so much a better place?

My name is Kevin Hile. I live in Cathedral City, California. If you want my phone number, you can email me using a form. Who the hell are you, really? Cowards hide behind pseudonyms. I challenge you to leave your name and email here on this site so that people can contact you (I could post your emails myself, but I promised people I wouldn't do that, but let's see if you are willing to have people contact you directly).
43 Comments
Rouge
9/21/2016 01:44:27 pm

Alright...

Before you delete my comment, would you be kind and read it? Please? Assuming you aren't upset about "people like me" anymore, you wouldn't care about whether or not I post a comment in an impossible attempt to make things clearer to your readers. Unless you do care after all.

Papabear: "Do you think I'M a parasite?"

(I'm not able to copy-paste because I deleted the convo due to being blocked by Papabear, but it goes something similar like this)

Me: "No, of course not. You take good care of the environment, raise money and awareness for charity and the well-being of our planet, take good care of other people, are unselfish, are compassionate, you aren't arrogant, you spent time, money and effort dedicated to a website designed to help others (even though I may disagree with your method of help) ... I would say that you're better than 80% of people on this planet"

Do I sound like someone who is trying to humiliate/make fun of someone? How did you fail to see something like this?

"This particular troll was quite clever."

If by "quite clever" you actually mean "someone who's so sceptical to the point he has to be proven things which couldn't be proven materially through scientific ways" then yes, I'm "very clever". I don't understand why you see me as narcissistic and arrogant? Why do you feel as if this is going to make me laugh?

Do you think this is what I wanted: "you will not shake my resolve to help others, you will not put a stop to this column, and you will not make me lose my faith in love and the Great Spirit."

This is the opposite of open-mindedness... You could have easily proven to me that love existed, but for some reason you we're blocked with your wrongful assumption that I'm some sort of evil entity that's out there to break your faith in love and the great spirit because I desperately wanted love but couldn't get it or something close to that.

You even want as far as to express the fact that you've met "people like me" and that it's "better if you don't even bother" to change my opinion of you (which is ironically extremely well), a fact I had very easily proved to be false by being willing to listen to what you have to say.

After this you still perpetuated your fears that I'm somehow a "very bitter, frustrated, and angry fellow" and that "it's very sad".

I feel as if it's more than normal for a person to think:

How the heck does he know all of that just by reading some pixelated text on his computer screen?

I asked multiple times as to why you're so sure you have mind-reading powers, which is very different than the spirit and love (both very reasonable in comparison to mind-reading and I don't care what anyone says about it, it's completely and utterly ridiculous to believe one has such powers and then get frustrated when one even asks for proof of said powers) but nevertheless I hadn't received answers to these questions. They were simply ignored. Just like that.

"But when I tried to give him some positive advice, he not only slammed me down but viciously attacked me to the point I had to finally block him."

If that was a "vicious attack", then I suppose a real vicious attack is a global disaster compared to that.

There is no more point in talking. I know from personal experience that this never works but who cares.

The only thing I regret is not that I somehow came out as a narcissistic, sadistic asshole. It's the fact that today I found out that even the most gentle and loving people have a dark side. I will still continue to read your column, I enjoy your work. Or if you wish to restrain me from your site, I am willing to do that, if it is something you wish.

I wish you all the best. Goodbye. I won't message you ever again in order not to cause any further distress to you or any fellow readers.

Just for the record I came to argue with you, not to seek help and positivity. And I don't think of myself as anything close to intelligent or anything similar to that so your accusations of me being a narcissist is false.

Au Revoir.







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Lego Man
9/22/2016 03:50:45 am

He's emotionally hypersensitive, which is self explanatory.

Other than, and everyone here hates to admit it, it was made obvious to me that this whole website and Papa's noble behaviour and this very website is a way for mister Kevin to receive validation.

That is, compensation for all the pain he has ever experienced. This man was bullied, ostracized, abused, by his "friends" in school. His father was a religious nutcase, he later found out he was homosexual after nearly 20 years of being happily married to his wife.

And now, he had lost the love of his love.

He needs to hear that he's a wonderful person, that his life has purpose and meaning.

Mister Kevin is a hero. But he is only a hero because he expects something in return. That is, to fill the emotional gaps that life left him with.

What I say is correct. Why else would he be willing to share all the bad things that happen to him? Why do others have to know if not to comfort him when he's in pain?

Check and mate.

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Papabear
9/22/2016 07:32:18 am

I share my experiences with readers, Lego Man, so that they understand that I have been through similar things that they have and I know what I'm talking about.

Do I get something in return? Yes. I find some happiness helping people. I have found in my life that things like money and material things do not bring happiness. Helping people does.

Am I an emotionally needy person? Who isn't? But that's not why I write this column.

Gregory Kendle
9/25/2016 05:06:51 am

>>Assuming you aren't upset about "people like me" anymore, [...] Unless you do care after all.<<

You are only being abrasive and fakely sweet, and that's only the opening. Only badly disguising an attempt to hurt.

>>If by "quite clever" you actually mean "someone who's so sceptical to the point he has to be proven things which couldn't be proven materially through scientific ways" then yes, I'm "very clever". I don't understand why you see me as narcissistic and arrogant? Why do you feel as if this is going to make me laugh? <<

Arrogant and narcissic, yes, because you seem to think he owes you that explaination. If he think he is clairvoyant, if he think he can read people's emotions, think he have psychometry, precognition, if he believe in the Great spirit, if he believe in God, if he believe in the Amatsukamis, Buddha, the Greys, Majora's mask or that our world is a freakin' video game and we're all scripted programs, he have the right to and owes you NO explainations whatsoever. As long as one's beliefs don't hurt your freedom or health, he is free to believe everything he want and have no obligation toward your skeptisism.

And you know what ? You are free to think it's all bullshit, but you have no right to pressure him into giving proofs.

Beside, you don't even compared another array of beliefs, you actually said yourself you need scientific proofs. Well, ohshit ! It so happen that religion and spiritual beliefs don't rely on that at all ! Do you pressure all christians, muslim, jew, buddhist, spiritualist you meet for physical proofs of something that is entirely spiritual or belief based ?

>>I wish you all the best. Goodbye. I won't message you ever again in order not to cause any further distress to you or any fellow readers.<<

We can see how it went lower on that page.

>>Au Revoir.<<

*sighs* It's completely a side note, but it sadden me to see my native language used when people goes all 'I'm bigger than you' in their messages. Do we French people inspire only this ?

>>Other than, and everyone here hates to admit it, it was made obvious to me that this whole website and Papa's noble behaviour and this very website is a way for mister Kevin to receive validation.<<

Hum... Maybe... I don't see how you could be so sure, but hey, y'know, maybe ! Then again, how does it matter and why do you feel it is your duty to expose it, and make sure the owner knows you exposed it, as publicly as in the comments ?

>>That is, compensation for all the pain he has ever experienced. This man was bullied, ostracized, abused, by his "friends" in school. His father was a religious nutcase, he later found out he was homosexual after nearly 20 years of being happily married to his wife. <<

Sooo... You basically mean that what he lived in his life shaped the person he is now ? Wow. Psychological brealthrough.

Sorry, I'm trying not to be too abrasive, but I tend to be a relatively sarcastic person in life, I'll let that one sit here.

So yeah, flash news : We are human beings.This is how we work. We lose a brother to a cancer, we help the cancer research. We lose a child to a psycho, we make sure to raise awareness against that kind of menace. The things we went through, good or bad determine the range of emotions we experience. Papa Bear went through a lot of shit. that's why he is so empathic to a lot of situations.

>>Mister Kevin is a hero. But he is only a hero because he expects something in return. That is, to fill the emotional gaps that life left him with.<<

Heh... What ? Even if it may be true to one extent, are you a personal, close friend of him, who lived through thick and thin for years with him to spit out such a cut out, acute and absolute diagnostic ? To actually claim, without the shadow of a doubt that nothing, absolutely nothing else than what you stated here, no genuine empathy, no desire to spare others the things he went through, no NOTHING aside from that ?

Because, either you're not implying that, and your comment is useless, because we all have reasons that spark our interest in a direction, and you stated what can potentially be his, and I don't see anything wrong with it, given that to me it's laced with a great deal of patience, tenderness, generosity and kindness, or you are entirely negating all traces of something else in his endeavor, and then, indeed, I have to ask, are YOU the one with mind reading powers ? Because aside from a legit psychiatrist stufying his case, I don't see how anyone could come to such extreme conclusions.

>>What I say is correct. Why else would he be willing to share all the bad things that happen to him? Why do others have to know if not to comfort him when he's in pain?<<

For the sake of comparison, obviously. When you talk with someone who have trouble facing his homosexuality, and you went through it as well, you talk about it, that's natural, sensi

Gregory Kendle
9/25/2016 05:32:46 am

(continued from 1st post.. I broke the limit ^^; )

sensible, and the most evident course of action to take. And well, sicne most people come here because of situations that hurt them, the comparisons is drawn with situations that hurt PapaBear, obviously !

>>Check and mate.<<

Well now, that's the quite the cherry on the top, right ? You cornered what you, yourself describe as someone you GENUINELY think is a sad, lone old man, who lost most of what made his life and use those letters as emotionnal sustenance on his own website, to conclude with a checkmate. That shows the intent behind the deed quite clearly. Sorry, do you want to add something else, to make sure the point goes through ? "Now go jump off a window, you old fuck" or something of that taste ? If you really believe, even half of the points you're trying to make, then that conclusion alone speaks volume to what YOUR motives, experiences and intents at writing here are.

I do wanna conclude on soemthing. Papabear, Rouge, Lego...

I don't believe they are trolls. Not for a second. If they were, it stopped a long time ago.

A troll throw half assed comments, annoys, is rude, hides behind the cover of internet anonymousness.

If a guy posted 'FIRST' on every letter posted here, he'd be a troll.

You guys, Rouge and Lego, you showed real effort in your posts, real continuity in your endeavour to hurt. You even threw the mask of anonymousness, (Although maybe for fake, I didn't check the mails, nor will I really try to make sure those adresses are yours, who would, anyway ?;).

You aren't trolls. You aren't trolling. This whole situation isn't trolling.

This is Cyber-Bullying. that's what you are, trying to impose yourself, trying to take over the situation, even trying to tell PapaBear what he should PIN on his front page, cornering, pressuring,grounding.

PapaBear. These guys are Cyber Bullies and they are even worse, and lower than a troll, who is annoying for the heck of it. They are in it for the feeling of overpowering someone and conquering, claiming his own cyber space. They are not worth the time of the day.

No matter the reasons, no matter the drive, PapaBear, you help people, you make a change, no matter how big or small, in the lives of many. you helped me back then, and you'll help others after that.

I love you, what you represent, this site. I love it all, and I hope you recover from this ordeal quickly.

Thank you for your time, for your kindness and efforts.
Thank you for your love.

A french panda.

Rouge
9/25/2016 12:14:14 pm

What you say is true, Gregory. Your arguments are more than valid.

In return, a question for you:

Does it feel comfortable on that white horse you're riding and looking down on me from :)?

P.S. Pardon me, I'm sorry I have expressed myself in your native language.

Rouge
9/25/2016 12:34:16 pm

"You aren't trolls. You aren't trolling. This whole situation isn't trolling."

Correct! Congratulations for making the effort to realize my true nature. You are probably the first furry to ever reach that level of comprehension.


"They are in it for the feeling of overpowering someone and conquering, claiming his own cyber space. They are not worth the time of the day."

Actually, I'm here to get my ass kicked by the good guys, because I'm an emotional masochist. I want to get beaten and conquered, not to beat and conquer.

I can't express how much pleasure (pain) I feel due to you crossing paths with me. It's is made obvious to me, just by reading your writings, that you are a very caring, loving, purposeful and noble person who can't bear to see people getting hurt.

That's why I do this. That's what I'm hiding, Papa bear. I'm not targeting furries because they are weak, bad and deserving of hate and shaming. It's because furries are STRONG, CARING, LOVING, NOBLE, COMPASSIONATE, SWEET... Because they can't be hurt! Because they refuse NOT TO BE THEMSELVES.

Because they ARE NOT AFRAID and WILL NOT LOSE.

On the other hand, BECAUSE I KNOW I WILL LOSE.

Because they aren't... Me.

This isn't a chatroom. If you want to discuss matters further with me, contact me at theredgardener@gmail.com

It's my real adress. Don't worry. Just message me.

Zero link
9/25/2016 12:45:56 pm

Monsieur Kendle, I messaged them personally. The emails are not fake. Thank me later. Go get them ;)

Papabear
9/22/2016 07:40:45 am

I never said I could read minds. I said I have empathy. BIG difference. That means that I can sense and intensely feel other people's emotions. As with all your responses to me in our email conversation, you don't understand what I am saying.

I think you're "clever" not because you demand only hard facts, but because you lured me into a conversation, asking my help. You DID in fact, ask my help several times. No, you didn't just want to debate. You wanted desperately to tear down my belief system to make me feel as bad and hopeless as you do.

Yes, you said I'm better than 80% of the people out there. Then you accused me of dumping my emotional baggage on you to make myself feel better.

I could have "easily" proven to you that love existed? I tried a number of times to tell you this. Again, you refused to listen.

How do I know stuff about you from your texting me? I'm actually quite good at this. I still believe you have emotional pain because something bad happened to you and you STILL refuse to tell me about yourself.

Yes, you clearly wish me to feel awful and lose my faith in my beliefs. You are a negative person who continues to attack me, even after I've blocked you, because you feel butt hurt about my comments.

All I got from you was hate, and then I got attacked when you accused me of trying to dump my emotional pain on you. I have better things to do with my life to consume your negativity and self-righteousness and utter despair.

So, as I noted in this particular column, I will leave you to your negativity. Thanks for making the world a darker place for me.

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Rouge (email: theredgardener@gmail.com)
9/22/2016 12:01:59 pm

Ugh... "You wanted desperately to tear down my belief system to make me feel as bad and hopeless as you do."

It's so true it's giving me a headache! Plus that literal mountain of testimonies! "Parenting win" and the one from Dr. Evelyn Oliver hit the hardest.

This is pathetic, I'M pathetic! I will have to deal with this amount of humiliation for the rest of my life...

Readers, if anyone wants to contact me, I provided the email above.

How?!

Nikola Alečković- knightoflegos@gmail.com (Pseudonym- Lego Man)
9/22/2016 01:54:30 pm

Federation of Bosnia and Herzegovina, Sarajevo. It's a pleasure to meet you, Kevin Hile of Cathedral City.

I challenge you to post my email on a front page of your website. Two can play this game.

I'm 16 years old, male, light chestnut hair, dark brown eyes, slightly below average looking face, IQ of 106, I'm tall for my age, suburban Sunni Muslim nationalist family (I'm an atheist), I'm currently attending a gymnasium in Sarajevo and plan to study medicine in the future (preparatory high school, as you Americans tend to call them https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gymnasium_(school)).

My family is a lower middle income one.

"You know what? I wake up every morning crying my eyes out because Jim is dead. At night I lay down in an empty bed (well, except for sweet Ernie the Wonder Dog), and yet I drag myself to the keyboard and try to help people because it is the only way I feel I have any meaning in my life anymore."

Sorry to sound so blunt, but, crying won't make him come back to life. If anything, be proud that you at least had such a wonderful person in your life. Truth is, many people NEVER find true love. You did. Twice. You know how lucky you are?

You were born in the USA for God sakes! You live in California! Not Texas, Nevada, or Florida. Not Ghana, Afghanistan or Nigeria. California. Do you not understand that literally millions of people in the world would give both of their arms and legs to live in California, just for a day. The fact you own a website, a fursuit, are writing and publishing many books tells me you are more than enough financially stable. You are a white American, the most socially and internationally accepted race in the world along with the British, French and the German.

You are living a dream to most people, Papa. You have everything, you are living a first-world western life in a developed superpower. Yet, you act as if you never had anything in your entire life.

What about the people that had to wake up alone and lay in bed alone without finding love once? That's not the worst of it.

Look at me, for example. Speaking about love, if I were to emigrate to a first world country, I'd still be at the bottom of the dating hierarchy because of my race, nationality and accent. I live in a post-war banana state led by nationalism and religion. The traces and ruins of war are still visible. All of Europe laughs at our country. The best part is that I can't do nothing about it. One of the highest poverty levels in Europe. Our capital is a village compared to a real American city.

Crying about it won't fix my country's issues. Crying about it won't stop the hate and violence, nor will it raise the victims of the war. There are a ton of people who have it WORSE than me, too. My country is a superpower compared to African and South American ones.

Imagine how I must feel when someone as privileged as you complains about hate. Believe me, you've never seen real hate. Be glad that you never will.

What's a few assholes and trolls compared to people who run you over with tanks and blow you up with mortars all while simultaneously laughing? Blowing brains of young children and old ladies with sniper rifles and feeling good about themselves at the same time? People who openly wish God would destroy your country with an earthquake/meteor/hell fire?

This goes to all westerners. I'm not saying that your pain isn't valid, I'm saying that you have more than half the people on the planet could ever wish for. In a way, same goes for myself.

Once again, I dare you to pinpoint my email on the home page.

Enough of this, open the floodgates!








Nikola Alečković
9/22/2016 01:59:24 pm

Rouge,

Oh, the furry community will bury us alive! I can sense the love mail flowing in! Don't give up yet.

I await the impending disaster with style and grace. We brought this up on ourselves.

Papabear
9/22/2016 03:10:04 pm

Nikola,

Jealousy is not a becoming emotion, nor does it justify treating others badly. Happiness does not come from money or even privilege. There are many rich and privileged people who are unhappy. Also, love does not depend on money or your ethnicity. Not real love, anyway.

As a gay man, I do understand what prejudice is. You have no idea because you do not have a clue about my life but, rather, simply make assumptions because I am white in America.

If you think I believe that crying about Jim will bring him back... well, you've just insulted me yet again.

There is no doubt that if I had been born in your country my life would have been very different. If you think I don't appreciate that fact, you have, yet again, insulted my intelligence.

So, the question here really is this. Why are you so pissed off at me and why are you and Rouge trying to make me feel bad? What do you hope to gain here? Seriously.

You're both just very angry people, and Papabear seems like a nice punching bag to vent your frustrations.

Okay then.

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Papabear
9/22/2016 03:40:11 pm

I see, too, you are only 16. A little young to be complaining you haven't found love yet. I'm probably being too harsh on someone so young. Oh, and if you haven't noticed the escalation of violence in my country, you might realize that the way things are going I'll be living in a war zone myself, pretty soon. And if Donald Trump is elected president, I'm sure I will see a very nasty push against gay people in this country.

Anyway, sorry I was hard on you.

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Nikola
9/22/2016 11:44:16 pm

"Anyway, sorry I was hard on you."

You don't have to be. You know who I am, Kevin.

I bet on my entire life that you know EXACTLY who I am. I won't hide anything anymore. Take a guess.

Did an image of "him" already appear in your head?

I have nothing to lose anymore. I don't believe in magic, but whatever your curse was meant to do to me, it sure did.

Are you sorry now?

Nikola
9/23/2016 12:05:30 am

"What have YOU done to make this world that you complain about so much a better place?"

Not a damn thing. I've fallen so low to the point I don't even want to make it a better place.

Nikola
9/22/2016 11:52:01 pm

"You're both just very angry people"

I wouldn't label myself as "a person" anymore. I'm only a mere empty shell of a person I once used to be. There isn't anything human about me either.

You are right when you imply jealousy. Jealousy, frustration, hate and anger are the only emotions I can feel. If I had a soul, I sure as hell lost it somewhere.

I don't see my email address posted on the front page. Why do you still hesitate?

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Papabear
9/23/2016 10:07:00 am

Content on the front page is not permanent, so posting your email there is not going to do anything. You've posted your email here, and it will stay on the site that way.

You seriously need professional therapy. I cannot give you that, unfortunately.

Wolf Star
9/23/2016 10:48:58 am

You believed yourself to be a empty shell, you must had a serious hell of a childhood. Must been parents abusing you or someone that actually cared about you died, or born without love.

Attacking or acting bold isn't going to solve your life real prolelms. You lash out at the poor man that is barely holding on to what happiness he has left. Papa offers help to other while he's hurt inside.

But your jealousy and idiocy is what you can put up instead of what really bugging you.

You're not a empty soul. Just a really pitiful man child that never can find true happiness.. unless you grow up and see that you can change your future. Nik.

Things can still change if you believe that you can do better. Take a break and look up at night, think about what's really bugging you and find a better solution. Everyone has a soul, including you.

Nikola
9/23/2016 12:46:42 pm

So, you so understand who I am thus the recommendation for professional therapy?

Come on, I'm not that miserable?

Wolf Star,

It wasn't abuse/lack of love/negativity. It was a then 50 year old man wrongly accusing me of being a colossal asshole and a troll. I'm pissed at the fact that he thinks his empathy is reliable. He hasn't even met me and he thinks he knows who I am through and through.

He didn't want to listen back then, what makes you think he'll listen now? What makes you think he's suck a clean person?

Papabear
9/22/2016 05:13:14 pm

Rouge, I honestly don't want you to feel humiliated or pathetic. I just wanted you to understand what I'm trying to do here.

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Rouge
9/23/2016 01:51:13 am

Then why are you trying to make us feel guilty?!

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Papabear
9/23/2016 10:08:23 am

I don't have to try; you already feel that way. Anyway, I have a right to defend myself when attacked, and that's what I've done. It's called self-respect.

Zero link
9/23/2016 02:04:01 am

"How do I know stuff about you from your texting me? I'm actually quite good at this."

I'm sure about it. Rouge and Lego Man are like open books to Papa bear. That's a very tragic disadvantage on their behalf (an advantage in your case).

I object. The two will never find love and it's better if they don't. My deepest condolences for the person who falls in love with either one of them, although, you and I don't have anything to worry about.

No amount of perfume, stylish clothing, tricks, prestige and money isn't enough to compensate for the lack of a good personality.

Rouge, Lego Man,

I sincerely hope you never find love and this is coming from a relationship advisor (or a "love doctor", if you want to call it like that). Beauty can distinguish beauty, and you guys don't look familiar.

Yours truly,
Zero.

Sources: am an empath.

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Nikola
9/23/2016 12:03:32 pm

Fine. Professional help.

Do you realise who I am though?

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Papabear
9/23/2016 12:48:57 pm

Yes, you trolled me before.

Zero link
9/23/2016 02:07:17 am

Lego Man, it's a shame, really. I won't forgive you for making Costa Rica sound so repulsive and painful to Papa bear. Beautiful country, unlike yours.

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Papabear
9/23/2016 12:55:56 pm

Hi, Zero,

From what I've heard, Costa Rica is a beautiful country. If someone told me that I had to choose a country south of the border to live in, I think I would choose Costa Rica.

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Papabear
9/23/2016 01:02:42 pm

Still waiting to hear what either of you are hoping to gain by your continued comments.

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Papabear
9/23/2016 01:04:26 pm

Oh, wait, Rogue actually did say what his motivation was, which is what I suspected. Your turn, Lego.

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Lego
9/23/2016 01:24:37 pm

I have no clue, honestly.

Papabear
9/23/2016 01:26:25 pm

I see. I find that if something has no point, it's usually best to stop doing it.

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Lego
9/23/2016 01:31:33 pm

Do you believe that people can change?

Is it possible?

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Papabear
9/23/2016 01:34:40 pm

yes

Lego
9/23/2016 01:39:24 pm

Have you ever felt similar to how I felt?

Lego
9/23/2016 01:55:37 pm

Why do you believe I can become a valuable person? I doubt someone like me could do something valuable to anyone.

Papabear
9/23/2016 01:46:31 pm

I have my moments of misanthropy, absolutely. It's actually one of several reasons why I'm a furry. However, taking your rage out on others is not the answer.

We are digressing here. And this is not a chat room. I think this trolling conversation has pretty much come to an end. If you wish to submit a new question, you may use the form on this site.

This has all been very exhausting for me, and I need to address some letters that have been waiting for weeks now. If you do submit a form, I will reply to it after I get to the others who are waiting patiently for me.

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Lego
9/23/2016 01:53:22 pm

One last question: Why do you choose to help me and not other people?

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Papabear
9/23/2016 01:55:27 pm

I'm not choosing one over the other. I'm going to help everyone I can.

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Lego
9/23/2016 02:04:47 pm

Very well. I will write you a letter.

I truly regret that day, I hope you understand that.

If I was still religious, I'd say you are a saint. You didn't deserve the pain I brought to you.

Keep it going, stay proud.

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Papabear
9/25/2016 07:44:30 pm

OMG, Rouge. You have brought something to my attention of which I was completely unaware. There is such a thing called emotional masochsim. Found this article http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2015/03/signs-emotional-masochism/.

I had no idea. Just goes to show the hazards that might happen when one is not an actual psychologist. I know I sound like a broken record, Rouge, but, seriously, get some professional help, please.

I was just debating about taking all this down off the site, but I think we can all learn something here, including me.

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Rouge
9/26/2016 05:06:54 am

"Just debating".

Debating? With who?

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Sergie
11/7/2017 05:07:56 am

i have been trolled as well mostly on Second Life i just block ad report that person i have even dealt with trolls in Roblox one of whom was racist when i called him out him flamed me and told me to choke on bleach which i found hurtful he has since been banned

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