Okay so....I have been reading your advice stuff for a while ^^. I seriously am turning here because instead of my few friends, you can actually give advice, where they just say things like "you're still okay to me" and stuff, but that's not what I'm looking for.
To start things off, I have like one friend in real life. I'm fifteen years old, and I'm not exaggerating, trust me. The school I attend, EPHS, has a horrid student body that’s voted me and another girl the most hated people of the school. Now in a school of 1800, that's a bad reputation to have. Rumors about me have spread among the student body and they severely hate me. This stuff has been going on since sixth grade. I left school that entire year because I had to have reconstructive surgery on my right leg. at the last couple weeks of school I came back, and nobody was really glad to see me. 7th grade erupted in constant bullying and teasing, and then in 8th grade I required another surgery. When I came back from that one, the kids, knowing exactly what that surgery was on, tried to mess me up. They yanked out a chair from under me as I was about to sit at lunch and I injured my leg, not bad enough to require surgery, but walking became a bit of an issue for a bit.
I still don't know exactly why they started to hate me, and it carried over into ninth grade, where apparently word of me had even reached the students at other middle schools. I should probably mention now that during the sixth grade I discovered this fandom and it helped me escape to some extent, and really, the fact that I Can just go on to sites like that, and draw my comics, is one of the only things keeping my from losing it. Anyways, 9th grade involved a lot of death threats as well from older students, a kid tried to rape me (for what reason I still don't know since everybody has agreed I'm generally unattractive). And I was punched in the back of the head, knocked unconscious, and kicked in the ribs a couple times towards the end of the year. I should have had a lot worse injuries because of how rough he was, but I musta been blessed or something. 10th grade was even worse for me. The physical bullying became less, but a collective of students would tease, taunt, steal from me, and degrade me on a regular basis for every little thing. I'm not the most normal child, I know this.
I listen to Korean Pop music a lot, I watch Asian horror films, and I draw, well, furry stuff because I feel better when I do it. They tease me about my weight, art, the music I make, the films I watch , to my sexuality (but everyone in that school acts like a slut and claims they've slept around with both sexes ANYWAYS), to anything and everything they can think of. So more and more into my work and the fandom I go. I've started to put on a sort of D-Baggy personality to deal with these creeps, but that only gets me in trouble because administration doesn't /listen/ to the minority, and they never will. I somehow, (and I'm still in shock myself) acquired a boyfriend, who doesn't live too far away from me, and that makes things a bit better too, but I can't continually rely on him to make me feel better, that's selfish and rude. Also, due to all the stress and everything, and my own desire to become...well..slim...has caused me to put tremendous stress on my body through physical exercise and lack of nourishment.
Anyways, I'm beating around the bush. my question here is this.
How am I going to deal with the coming year in school, I can't stand to do it anymore and I'm afraid I'll either become more of a recluse than I already am or I'll lash out and hurt someone or multiple people given the chance. I seen stuff on the news about stuff like that that happens when kids in my situation just snap and believe me I don't wanna snap, I have a family and a boyfriend to care for.
Sorry for giving you such a long letter, I Rewrote this quite a few times to shorten it up and this is as good as I could get. Help would be greatly appreciated though.
Koda the Squirrel
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First of all, it is incredible to me that you would have to endure such a hellish school environment. If what you say here is true, you should have filed assault charges on those other children, ESPECIALLY when they hurt your already injured leg. You are the victim of two crimes here: bullying and assault, and, if I were you, I would collect all the evidence I had on these crimes and contact a lawyer. No one should go through this kind of crap in school, and you need to do something about it. Seek some advice from an attorney, Koda. Many offer free consultations and, if you are low on money, will accept a percentage of any settlement you might get.
Papabear is appalled. You’re not attending a school, you are being tossed into a jungle filled with nasty subhuman filth. And no one better write to me excusing that behavior as “just kids having harmless fun” or “this is what happens in every school, so you should get over it.” Bullshit. There are more laws in place to help you with this, Koda, than ever before. I suggest you do something about it. If the school authorities give you trouble about what you are doing, contact your local newspaper, TV, and radio outlets and tell them what is going on.
In the meantime, see what you can do about being home schooled and/or taking classes online so you don’t have to go back to that cesspool of a school.
Time to defend yourself, Koda.
Good luck to you.
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