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Stress at Work Is Affecting His Fursona

5/11/2014

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Papabear, 

It seem for a while now I been working as a medical assistant I help nurses and doctors on a daily basis, mostly with the disabled and mentally handicapped. so I deal with an array of medical issues, I help with some type of end of life care, and I have to be so positive I haven’t had time to let out my stress. It’s starting to wear me out. I haven't been feeling happy. My fursona, Mr. Silvius, I feel like he's becoming negative. Are my emotions affecting Mr. Silvius?

Thank you, Papa Bear

Mr. Silvius (21)

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Dear Mr. Silvius,

I would say that yours is a very astute and likely correct observation.  When we are unable or unwilling to express our emotions—especially negative emotions—in some way, all that aggravation, frustration, and pain has to come out in some manner or else we would explode. In extreme cases, this is why you see some people “go postal” and actually murder people. They feel that no one listens to them or that they are powerless and it becomes way too extreme for them, overwhelming them into lethal behavior.

I’m not saying you’ll do that, don’t worry. You have found, subliminally, a safer way to release your emotions, transferring them to your fursona. I can certainly understand how your work would leave you sad, frustrated, and even angry. You have to plaster that smile on your face and force your voice to be upbeat even in cases where you know there is no hope. Congratulations on being so unselfish and helping people the way you do.

Now we have to help you! 

The best way I’ve found to release anger and other pent-up emotions is vigorous exercise. Ever feel like you want to kick the you-know-what out of something? Go to the gym and hit and kick a punching bag. Even better, take martial arts lessons, which show you not only how to kick butt but also how not to. By having discipline combined with physical exertion, you can really manage your darker emotions. 

Other ways to do this are things like running and swimming and weight training. Not only will this release a lot of energy from your body, it will make you healthier, and good health is an excellent way to reduce stress in your life.

I think you will find that if you follow one of these strategies that best suits your interests and needs that the negative feelings will dissipate into the air and there won’t be any left to transfer to your fursona. If it doesn’t work, write to me again and we’ll talk some more.

Good luck! Be Blessed!

Papabear
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Critter link
5/12/2014 10:09:14 am

Like Papabear, I have found exercise to be a great relief not only for stress but anxiety or other negative feelings.

Something to consider as well are programs that help those in helping professions like you. You could ask someone in your general field for programs in your area - a hospice chaplain might be a good start. The stress you are experiencing goes beyond ordinary job stress and if not dealt with can lead to burnout.

Good luck, and thank you for helping those in need.

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Papabear
5/13/2014 01:58:03 pm

As usual, a good addition to the discussion, Critter. I'm thinking of making you an official co-author of this column :-3 Not all work places have such programs, but it would be a good bet that someone who works as a medical assistant would also have access to such a program.

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Silvius
5/20/2014 04:21:18 pm

Yeah that is a good idea i never thought of that before thanks for the aid :) warm hugs -Silvius

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