hello papa bear. my names Red the shapeshifting wolf knight
well befour I ask my question I need to let you ( and the readers) know that my wrighting and spelling is a bit off so im very sorry about that
well I need some help and a bit of advice I join the fandom in 2012 I first learn about it by watching videos on youtube and artworks on deviantart so I been enjoying it and enjoying other things besides just furries.
I wanted to tell my family about me being a furry but I always been very shy and worred about thare reactions and worried about what they think of it and not accept me.
one day my younger sister found out about it on her own and by telling me this she shown me an episoad on my "my strange addiction furry episode" and told me furries wear thare fursuites 24/7 and been quitet about it until 2016 when last tusday she was upset and told me furries like sex and are perverting people.
as my older brother also found out while in an anime convetion that I was not around but told me furries are into sex and porn and also told me "your not a furry! you have to have an fursuite to officialy be a furry" and "furries are shy people they rater act normal in sute thin they are as a human"
and my dad I told him and was sore of ok with it but freaking out about fursuites thinking they are creepy and worred if someone was inside they try to kill me or worse.
but my older brother and sister said they are both trying to protect me from the fandom.
im asexuall and im not into the adult side of the fandom just enjoy artworks and ideas and meeting new people but everytime I try to explain that they just ignore it.
I have told my mom but dose not know half of it and I want to explan it befour dose not accept me.
so at this point I don't know what to do and I need some advice and what should I do?
please reply soon: Red
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Okay, let me pass along some quick information here:
So, what do you need to do? Nothing. Just be yourself and don't let others, especially your family or peers at school, tell you who you are. There is only one rule you need to know, and it comes from the Bible. It is called the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. In other words, be kind to people because you would want them to be kind to you.
You are now in a part of your life that is quite hazardous. It is a time of life where you can either give in to family and peer pressure, do what society says is "normal" and live your life pretending to be something you are not, OR you can take the path to discovering who you really are. To do this, you must disregard what others tell you you have to do or be (other than don't do things that hurt other people; see the Golden Rule above). The people who are the happiest in life are the ones who define their own lives and who know who they really are.
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