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Should He Quit Smoking? ... duh....

10/23/2012

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Hello agiain Papabear

I'm back again with another issue. I am a smoker. My mate is not. It is hard for him to understand my decision because we both have lost people near and dear to us to lung cancer. I know that the old "it relieves my stress" thing is a cop out, but it does so for me. I have also quit before and I know I can do it again. Should he respect my decision, or should I quit? I know he is only looking out for me, but this is my choice.

Thanks Again,
BlazeNeko
aka Blaze

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Dear Blaze,

It is, indeed, your choice to smoke, and it is not illegal to smoke. You don’t provide any reasons why you smoke, other than it relieves stress.  There are many ways you can relieve stress other than smoking: exercise, meditation, a vacation/break from the routine, soothing music, certain herbal remedies, trying to change the situation that is causing you stress, and so on.

All of these things are not only not dangerous, but are actually good for you. Yet, you have chosen a way to relieve stress that is a health risk to the point of being lethal, as you well know. Furthermore, allowing yourself to continue to smoke just makes you a tool—a tool of the cigarette industry that unnecessarily puts nicotine into cigarettes in order to get you hooked on something that is bad for you. Also, because of additional taxes placed on cigarettes in order to discourage smoking, you are paying a premium on every pack (the average is $5.50 in the U.S., or $55.00 a carton, and in New York you pay about $12 a pack or $120 a carton; if you are smoking 2 packs a day, that’s costing you about $4,000 a year or more), which makes you even more of a tool. Oh, and let’s not forget something else that’s important: you’re exposing your mate to cigarette smoke, thus endangering his health, too, against his will.

Do you really enjoy being the tool of a murderous corporate scam? Do you enjoy making yourself and your mate sick? Especially when there are alternatives to smoking to reduce your stress?

Yes, you have free will to smoke or not to smoke. It really depends on how much of a derp you are.

Am I being harsh? In this case, you bet. I’m being as rude to you now as you are being to the mate you supposedly love.

Think about it. Then quit.

Papabear

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Critter link
10/23/2012 09:12:12 am

Some people - like me - have bad physical reactions to 2nd hand smoke. So for some of us it's not just a matter of taste.

I can understand your feeling about not wanting to be bossed around by your mate but this time might be the right one for compromise. There's always some of that in any relationship.

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Big Leo
4/12/2013 10:51:45 am

I lost my father two years ago to illnesses (Stroke and Congestive Heart Failure) that might not have happened had my father quit smoking like I had tried to get him to do since I was a child. He had smoked since he was 13 years old.

Smoking isn't just bad for your lungs. it's bad for your entire body!

Really, for the sake of not just you but for the sake of EVERYBODY that even remotely cares about you, leave the smoking habit behind and don't look back. EVER.

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