Over a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend of three years. When this happened, I began to question my sexuality and found that female parts don't get me as excited as make parts do.
I have a very close friend who is gay, he's like family, I've known him for about the same length of time I was with my gf. He's not living at home anymore and whenever he told me about his sexual escapades, I felt jealous. Not jealous of him for having sex, but jealous of the other men because they got to be with him. I never told him how I felt, and now, he's left his bf of a few months.
I really want to tell him but I don't want to damage the relationship we already have. Do I wait for him to get over his ex and tell him how I feel? I still want him in my life.
Please, I need your help.
Remorseful Husky (age 20)
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The idea of “waiting for him to get over his ex” is just a procrastinating excuse on your part because you’re afraid to tell him you’re in love. So is the excuse “I don’t want to damage the relationship.”
Stop making excuses and follow your heart.
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