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She's 12 and Struggling to Figure Out Her Fursona

7/7/2014

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Papabear,

I have recently became a young new furry, and I am working on my Fursona. I am an artist, so I thought my creativeness would allow me to create a detailed Fursona that I would stick with. Though, things haven't been like that. I have the name thought out (Crystal), and the species too (Angel Dragon), but I just can't think of a design! I like huskies so I thought putting a husky pattern, with blue since it's my favorite color. Then I get new ideas, and I try to keep it simple since I want to fursuit one day. But then I keep getting new design ideas, and new color ideas! It's hard for me to stick with one! And I don't want multiple characters since I feel most comfortable with only one. I've tried looking on the internet for an idea I would stick with, but I want to use one that's beautiful, unique, and something that I can be comfortable with! Please help!

Crystal the Angel Dragon (age 12)

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Dear Crystal,

Welcome to the fandom. I hope you enjoy your experiences with us. 

I find that fursonas are a reflection of our inner selves. As such, it is not at all surprising you are having a hard time settling on a fursona. Why? Because you are 12 years old, and at that age you are still discovering who you are as a person. If I had selected a fursona at your age, you would now be talking to a dragon, not a bear. Actually, I take that back. At your age, I was a wolf (because I loved Kipling’s Jungle Book and wanted to be part of Akela’s wolf pack), and then I entered my teen years and became fascinated by fantasy novels and loved dragons (had a large dragon figurine collection, too). I didn’t become a bear until I was in my 40s. I know I will be a bear from now on because I have finally learned who I really am inside.

You will likely experience the same transitions yourself as you go through puberty and wiggle your way into adulthood. Don’t be perplexed, flummoxed, or aggravated, therefore, that you are still figuring out your fursona. Too, as an artist, you are naturally fascinated by color, so experimenting with that can be a lot of fun. Color preferences will also change with time (me: blue to green and now definitely orange).

You will not be the same person at 18 that you are now at 12, and you will not be the same person at 30 or 40 that you will be at 18. I used to think that people do not change, but I was so wrong about that. They do, and you will too, and so will your fursona.

Nothing is written in stone, and if you pick a fursona now that is a blue angel dragon named Crystal, but later you change to, say, a green husky named Daphne, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Go ahead and be who you are now and don’t worry about the future. Enjoy being a 12 year old angel dragon, have fun with it. Life is to be enjoyed now.

Hugs,

Papabear
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