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Sexy Art Draws Jeers

10/30/2012

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[Papabear notes, "This is a follow-up on yesterday's letter."]

Hello Papabear,

I got your answer to my question.  I have another issue.  I do draw furry XXX artworks, but only for clients and my own emotion purposes. But others just take my sketchbook, look without my permission, and then they have a different perspective of me after.

Also I am not gay or any other sexuality (I am blank, yes it's a sexuality that has been passed from gen to gen). So, is there any advice or tips you could give me to help with this issue?

I also like herm and futanari [the Japanese term for androgyny or hermaphroditism] art, but people call me sick and "un-godly" because of it.

Much appreciated,

Buster

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Hi, Buster,

There is nothing wrong with X-rated artwork when kept to adults. I don't know how people are getting a hold of your art without your permission, but my first advice to you would be to keep it under wraps a lot better than you apparently do. 

My second impression is that what we have here are "holier than thou" derps who pass judgment on you after, in essence, stealing from you and violating your privacy (hmm, such a noble way to behave, right). Next, I would like to say that most people I've met who use the word "un-Godly" are hypocrites. They pass judgment on others in direct violation of the Bible's command that the only person who has that right is God Himself.

Americans (and I presume you are writing to me from the USA) have a peculiar hang-up about sex. They call this natural function "obscene," but have no problem with violence and bloodshed, nor do they seem to have a problem with capitalism, an obscene system that violates the very heart of Jesus' teachings (there is nothing more obscene to me than a rich televangelist standing in a multi-million dollar megachurch, wearing an expensive suit, and insisting that the poor give him 10% of their money).

Papabear believes that people who insult your work and call you names do so because what you draw makes them uncomfortable. Know why? I'd bet you $100 right here and now that it turns them on, and that makes them uneasy, so to deflect their discomfort they turn it into insults and hurt your feelings.  Kind of reminds me of this list: 
http://www.ranker.com/list/top-10-anti-gay-activists-caught-being-gay/joanne.

The ones who protest the most are usually the vilest of the bunch.

It is interesting to me, though, how you talk about your artwork. You describe yourself as "blank" sexually (meaning asexual? without sexual desire?), yet X-rated art satisfies some emotional need in you. Indulge me while I explore that a little.

To Papabear, sexuality is a beautiful thing, and a pleasurable thing. The only time it is "obscene" or "un-Godly" is when it is rape or other types of abuse. But when it is between consenting adults it is one of the few wonderful pleasures we have in this world. The naked form is also an expression of freedom. Recently, I had the opportunity to go to a nude beach and swim naked in the Pacific Ocean. It was very freeing and wonderful. Furthermore, there is nothing as touching nor as socially bonding as the merging of two bodies into one (or, hehe, maybe three).

Perhaps you, like me, find sensual expressions like this liberating and beautiful, as well. Since your motivations are in no way prurient, they are in no way "obscene" as you have been accused of.

Buster, when you face such criticisms, consider the source. If you have no respect for those criticizing you (and I feel you shouldn't), then their opinions should not matter. If the person saying these things is someone you respect, then take them by the paw and take the time to explain to them how they misunderstand what you do when you draw or paint.

Most of all, do not let others define who you are. Look inward. That is the source of the only opinion that matters.

Hugs,
Papabear


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