Dear Papa Bear,
If you cant tell by my name, I am a Pot smoker. I smoke with my husband from joints to bong hits to lungs. It helps me with my stress as I am a naturally anxious and nervous dragon and it makes for good therapy. We have many great times together but there is one problem...my mother does not have a clue that I smoke. I really want my mother to know what I am doing and that its not dangerous and that its in fact helping me. My mother was a soldier in the US army and is Pro federal all the way, from wanting to ban guns to wanting cannabis to remain illegal, saying that its bad and evil. She has these positions and would outright deny and ignore facts that oppose her ideals despite the obvious flaws in her logic. She already knows I support cannabis legalization, but ignores that fact openly. She remains under her rock not taking in new facts and information, has she truly been brainwashed and is there any way I can reach to her to understand? I'm afraid that if I tell her I smoke pot that she might disown me and never help me if I am in trouble in my life. I really want to be open with my cannabis experiences with her because there are many rich stories to tell but its frustrating that I cant.
Thank you for reading
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With someone who is that rigidly entrenched in their opinions, it would be extremely difficult to open up to them. Papabear appreciates your desire to be 100% honest with your mom about who you are, but there are times when it is just better not to do so. This is one of them.
Based on your letter, I believe that if you told your mother you smoked you would get a very negative reaction from her. She would probably tell you and your husband to stop immediately and, if you didn’t, I wouldn’t be surprised if she called authorities on you.
No, you are better off not telling her. If you think it is worthwhile, you can do your best to try and educate her about marijuana and see if she will change her mind, unexpectedly, but until she does you are best to keep silent on the matter and enjoy all the other aspects of your relationship with your mother that you do share.
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