Parents Blame Their 6-Year-Old for Their Divorce

Dear Papabear,

Recently, my parents have been fighting a lot and saying they wouldn't have divorced if it wasn't for me, and I'm also thinking of ending it all. What should I do? I have no one to talk to and I live with my aunt who's always at work and is neglective.

Sincerely,
Eli (age 6)

Hope to hear from you soon.

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Dear Eli,

Are you really only 6? You write well for someone so young. I am sorry to hear your parents are fighting and making you feel bad. It is very wrong of them to say "they wouldn't have divorced if it wasn't for me." What an AWFUL thing to tell your child!! Horrible! I'm glad you can live with your aunt. I don't know what her job is, but perhaps it seems she "neglects" you simply because she works hard and is tired? At least she took you in. Don't judge her too quickly.

None of this is YOUR fault. PLEASE do not blame yourself. How could it be your fault when you're just a child? Repeat after me: "This is not my fault. This is not my fault. This is NOT my fault."

If you are serious when you say you feel suicidal, please call the hotline at 988. They will help you. There is no charge.

If you wish to talk more, you know where to find me. You can email me directly.

Please take care of yourself.

Hugs,
Papabear