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Non-Drug Therapies Can Help This Phoenix Suffering from Sleep-deprivation and Emotional Illnesses

11/26/2013

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Hello Papa Bear,

Only recently have I found your advice page, and oddly I had been looking for one. Weird how that all works out....

Anyway, I’m a phoenix, but I suffer from a fairly ironic problem. I have problems getting to sleep at night. Mainly due to when nest down for the evening, I am flooded with feelings of fear and depression. My mind runs straight to "You just lost another day of your life" and "One step closer to death." I haven't been able to get it to stop and it's making my feathers fall out. When the thought of death is unavoidable when its nesting time, it scares me to death.

At one time I went for professional help. After many tests I was diagnosed with panic attacks, night terrors, and depression. They tried to medicate me, and thanks to a previous life I am not at all proud of (involving heavy drug use) I am majorly afraid of using anything that isn't natural or that forces me to do anything.

I really don’t know what to do about this, the lack of a good restful night sleep is really starting to effect me badly. my heath has been taking a turn for the worst. 

What can I possibly do?

From one tired birdy,
Dimitri

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Hi, Dimitri,

Thanks for your letter. Quick question: do you drink diet sodas or anything with artificial sweeteners? 

Please get back to me and I'll write again soon.

Hugs,

Papabear

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Actually I don't. I mainly drink tea and water. I never had a taste for soft drinks.

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Hi, again, Dimitri,

Okay, I always like to check that first because a lot of people drink diet sodas and consume other things with aspartame, which can really mess up your neurological system.

That aside, first allow me to congratulate you for getting off the drugs. That is no small achievement and deserves recognition. I also understand that you would be hesitant to take prescription drugs, since they can have many adverse side effects (just watch any drug commercial on TV—got depression? Take this pill.... Oh, sure, it might give you thoughts of suicide and give you a tumor, but you won’t be depressed! Say what?)

There could be a lot of things going on here. You say you sought professional help (good for you) and they diagnosed you with panic attacks, night terrors, and depression. Okay, so, that’s the diagnosis, but did they try to find out the cause of all this? Or did they just reach for the pills? Treating the symptoms will not help you without finding the cause.

One possibility could go back to your drug use. Drugs, as you well know, can really mess up your brain. It could be that whatever you were ingesting or injecting or snorting has damaged your neurological system (just as aspartame does) and this has caused your current problems. If that’s the case, then the damage is done. Now, sometimes your brain can, over time, rewire itself and recover. Other times it cannot. I personally know a man who took heavy drugs when he was young and now he is a walking zombie. It’s really sad. Fortunately, it’s not quite that bad for you and maybe there is help.

Now, going even deeper, it could be that the real problem is whatever caused your drug use in the first place, such as if you had a particularly traumatic childhood or, if you were in the military, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

These are things that you really need to discuss with a professional. Go to a counselor or psychologist (not a psychiatrist), or, if you think any of the above is true, you could also seek group therapy.

What you need to do, in the meantime, is calm your body and mind. That in itself may help you gain insights into the possible causes of your issues. There are several ways to do this without drugs, including:

  • Yoga
  • Meditation
  • Exercise
  • Creating a sleep-friendly bedroom environment (using aroma therapy and soft music and making sure the room is dark and comfortable)
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (a good drug-free therapy alternative)

There are also a number of foods, too, that you can eat that are conducive to sleep. Ever hear of drinking a warm glass of milk before bed? It’s more than just a household remedy—it can actually help. Some other foods that help you sleep are:

  • Lemon Balm Tea (also helps digestion) and other herbal, decaf teas
  • Cherries or cherry juice (also helps joints)
  • Foods with tryptophan, including whole-grain cereals (mixed with milk!), seafood like halibut, shrimp, tuna, and cod, and, as many post-Thanksgiving diners know, turkey!

What you need is sleep. The less you sleep, the more imbalanced your brain becomes, and the more likely you are to have nightmares, depression, and so forth. In recent years, the medical community has become increasingly aware of how vital good, restful sleep is to our health. An organization that specializes in sleep research and assistance is the National Sleep Foundation (http://www.sleepfoundation.org/). I recommend you visit its website, join the online community, and perhaps seek a sleep therapist (a directory is available on the site).

You might discover that your problems stem from less shocking causes such as sleep apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome, or some other very treatable trigger.

Many doctors these days are too quick with the drugs. Try some of the approaches above and I’m confident you will get some relief! 

Happy Thanksgiving! Eat Turkey!

Grubbs
1 Comment
BruinDad
11/26/2013 07:47:42 am

First I'm not speaking as a professional only from my own experiences.

As Papabear says check for any additional psychical reasons that may reduce the quality of your sleep. I needed a CPAP for apnea. Take advantage of sleeping in a bit at times when you can. Getting a bit of extra sleep now and then is fine, and if all other things get better you can always cut down to a tighter sleeping schedule again.

Facing things in the light of day is a meaningful statement and I'd like to suggest a typical behavior (mod) therapy that may apply to helping you.

During the day (or morning) make notes of things that bother you at night, add to these notes each day more and more things for a whole week of time. On any day add anything you think of even if you don't recall a particular night you were thinking about something, it may be weeks old. At the end of the week face your fears during the day by reviewing and thinking on all your notes as much as you want and as much time you feel it is useful. Write down more notes if you like and write down anything in the way of questions. Maybe note of an item or two for a 'bucket list' of things to do before you get a lot older.

Now after you have spent as much time as you feel toward studying and thinking about the weeks list get ready because your going to throw the list away and start spending nights thinking less about the things that keep you awake and try to dwell more on positive things and getting to sleep.

Throw away that weeks list. You may want to add to next weeks list a couple items from the previous weeks list. If possible try not to carry over anything, but limit it to only two or three three things. Even the the notes formed as questions can be listed. Repeat this process every week, don't worry if a week is exactly seven days each time.

What becomes important is that you are facing your fears in the light of day and committing your nights to sleeping well.

Also it may become clear a couple items that continue to reappear on the list you may need to keep talking to someone about, a professional. If you want to takes your notes or have someone around to talk to when you study them is fine. But you must study it each week even if you do it alone.

This describes a therapy that may help you.

Also you may feel a need to act out some items on the bucket list. Those physical activities will help make you feel better as well.

This is only a suggestions as an example of the type of thing you have to approach to change a behavior about how you sleep, I hope it or a variation of it helps you out. Hugs

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