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Must He Break Up with Furry Girlfriend If He Is Not into Furries?

8/1/2016

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Hello,

I'm not a Furry but I don't know anyone else I could ask. (Besides people on FA but I don't want to make an account since I would only use it once). She's 16 I'm about 15.


About 4 months ago I met Angelina. Her parents are furries, and she got her first suit, and it's not too ackward, because she doesn't wear it in public around me, so props for that, But she asked me to go to a furcon, and to go with her to furry meets, and trying to introduce me to the fandom, and I don't want to... But should I? I don't want to break up with her.

Eric (15)

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​Hi, Eric,

Thanks for your question. You don't have to be a furry to have a furry girlfriend. My late husband was not a furry, but he was very supportive of me. I would suggest you join her at a furcon or furmeet for the one reason that you should probably get a better idea about what furries are before you make further judgments about them. You will see that we are just normal people with an unconventional interest that's really no stranger than, say, being a Trekkie or being obsessed with World of Warcraft. We're just people--like your girlfriend :-)

She obviously has qualities about her that you like a lot and you want to continue the relationship. Be supportive, just like--I would hope--she would be supportive of you if you were interested in something even if she wasn't.

Make sense?

Good luck!
Papabear
8 Comments
Aurel
8/2/2016 06:58:43 am

"Her parents are furries"

And she is a furry... Wait, did she get indoctrinated into the furry fandom XD?

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Baloo Uriza link
8/2/2016 11:43:58 am

Are you furry? You have a keeper, roll with it!
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Are you uncomfortable with furries? Then let this down gently like a friendzoning Nick Wilde.

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Aurel
8/2/2016 12:30:03 pm

No, I'm not uncomfortable with furries. In fact, I was saying that it's rare to see both parents AND their child be furries. The question is whether Angelina was taught to be a furry or she was simply influenced by her parents and made the decision herself. It doesn't matter either way, the more furries the better or shall I say the more fluffy our world is and that's a good thing.

And... can you please explain what you just said in the "English is not my main language so I don't understand all the phrases" style (Simple so I can understand XD). No offence, but I have no clue about what you meant to convey up there :)

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Papabear
8/3/2016 09:02:21 am

Children are greatly influenced by their parents behavior, so it is very possible that she is a furry because her parents are. I doubt, however, that her parents are forcing her to be a furry. I'm sure she enjoys it as much as her parents do.

Lego Man
8/3/2016 11:00:36 am

"Children are greatly influenced by their parents behavior, so it is very possible that she is a furry because her parents are."

I just can't comprehend how lucky she is! She has wonderful fun-loving parents who taught her to be loving and tolerant, kind and loyal and most importantly that just be herself, regardless of who she choses to be. Second, she has a wonderful boyfriend who genuinely cares about her and wants to learn about her hobbies... All that and she's only 16!

It's like when the stars collide! It's just so rare :3

Lego Man
8/2/2016 01:29:25 pm

"you should probably get a better idea about what furries are before you make further judgments about them."

I'm pretty sure he didn't judge them one bit. The "further judgements" part is irrelevant. Unless he did that via email conversation which we can't see.


BTW, I understand why you wouldn't want to indulge into furry, Eric. I would stay on alert if I were you, keep it safe and have fun Eric.

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Papbear
8/3/2016 09:00:19 am

It's a judgment that he's uncomfortable about them. So, my statement was not inaccurate, thank you.

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Nivis Tigridis
8/16/2016 05:19:04 pm

I know it's a late reply, but I hope Eric will see this message.

IF you love your GF stay with her and experience the fandom, you DON'T have to be a furry to hang out with some of them. You could be "Fur Friendly" (Friendly with Furries) and/or be your GF "handler / spotter".

Most of the time I'm the "handler / spotter" for some furs friend and we say are entertainer or mascots and that pass well.

Like PapaBear state go see what it's all about, be YOURSELF and all will go well. If a community is often more then accepting it's the Furry fandom.

NB: There's still a part of Jerk and bad persons, but that's society XD

PS: PapaBear Good to see you're going well and continue to have this column.

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