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Looking into Feet Again :-3

1/5/2013

6 Comments

 
Papabear,

Since I have had time to ponder over various experiences with other furs in the furrydom, I found something quite unique about the sub-interest in the fandom. 

When it comes to fetishes, I notice many of the popular fetishes are okay and acceptable except for foot fetishes get mentioned....Just mentioned, thought of, commented about, etc. As soon as the idea of a thought about it gets into the air, the big "EEEEEEUWWWW" and a scattering furs away from the one or two furs just barely commenting lightly about the thought or idea of having a passive interest on feet.

I noticed, when I compliment on a nice fursuit, and mention anything about the feet, somehow, I get this "WHY ABOUT THE FEET" look back at me, as if I slammed the whole con or furmeet into oblivion. It's just a compliment on the whole suit, and the compliment on the feet seems appropriate to me, because they do compliment the suit(s) nicely. Glad the extra effort was made to really make the suit awesome and complete.

I am aware a lot is done with and in suits when there's private costume play of sorts, but what is it about feet that makes furs cringe to unmentionable levels like they're being stabbed in the heart?

Makes it much harder to find others into feet, because after reactions like that, you become too gun shy to want to keep reaching out for maybe another with similar sub-interest in the fandom.

Maybe you can enlighten me some more on this subject Papabear. 

--Paw

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Hi, Paw,

I guess this will serve as a follow-up to the recent letter http://www.askpapabear.com/1/post/2012/12/mates-foot-fetish-has-boyfriend-bewildered.html on the subject.

I, too, am a little baffled by the reaction you are getting. There is nothing gross to go “Ewwww” about concerning feet, unless you are very unhygienic about your feet. Perhaps the furries who go “Yuck” have bad foot care? It is interesting they react this way, because there are other things furries seem to like a lot that are MUCH more germy and unsanitary. For example, oral sex is extremely unhygienic (the mouth contains literally billions of germs). And then, of course, there is both heterosexual, conventional sex and anal sex. We’re talking big time germs and the potential for very nasty diseases. Given a choice between playing around with feet and doing something sexually, feet are almost infinitely cleaner and less disgusting.

Papabear personally finds furry feet very adorable. And I agree with you that fursuit feet, when done well, can be extremely cute. Drawings of furry characters showing their footiepaws? Also cute.

Perhaps if you set about educating furries about why you find feet cute and then give them foot massages, they might change their minds? I mean, who doesn’t like a good footpaw rub?

Sorry I can’t help more on this. Perhaps my readers would like to chime in, especially those who run the other way at the mention of feet, and explain the revulsion? 

At any rate, Paw, if you wish to join a community that likes feet the same way you do, you can easily find them online, on Facebook, and other sites. You might try that. If you are a member of Furry4Life, they have a group there you can join: http://furry4life.org/group/furryfeettickling. You might like that :-3

Hugs and Paw Rubs,

Papabear
6 Comments
Brandon
1/5/2013 04:06:43 pm

Within the last few years, I recently got into the foot fetish and I quite enjoy it. However I think part of the revulsion may be with people who have callouses. The dry/hard skin wouldn't seem too appealing to many people and I think a good amount of people have natural callousing, But it's certainly nothing a little TLC + lotion can't take care of!

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Paw
1/6/2013 02:56:28 pm

I do agree with you Brandon. It is enjoyable, fun, and safer. And it does get deeper than that when it gets passed the passive worship, and gets into the footjob aspects of it for those who get that deep into feet.
I get the idea that many furs think that a foot fetish is worse than
some of the stuff they get into. I have seen some really nice feet out there...Feet taken care of well! And some fursuit feet have been
a turn on as well when designed to that degree.
A foot fetish is an awesome interest. The few experiences gotten
from it are quite enjoyable, though mostly in dreams Would like to have a real experience someday. Just seens to me that furrydom
seems to have the idea that this is just wrong to unmentionable
levels. What is enjoyed in the fandom is nicer and more exciting.

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Dairy Cow
1/7/2013 04:29:08 am

I agree with ya guys, foot fetish is quite interesting and exciting but also relaxing while having a nice, looong foot massage. I`ve always treated my feet with respect (also using a nice foot lotion) to keep them healthy and that`s the point: health.

I'm one of those surries who is not ashamed to say I have a foot fetish and love it.

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Diamond Man
1/8/2013 11:10:06 pm

Yeah I agree, but I don't think any germy thing like usual sex would have to be "gross" since those are natural things. Especially if sexual like desire is meant to go to "unclean" things anyway. Unless that's not what you meant. :P

Plus it's weird how many furs in a "open" fandom would react like that. Hmm

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Timmy
1/12/2013 12:10:28 am

I feel like freaking out over a foot fetish is compleatly immature. I garentee you that out of everyone who hates of the foot fetish, none of them freak out during any Quentin Tarantino movie (He has the biggest foot fetish in all of Hollywood).

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eekee
3/13/2013 02:39:42 pm

One fur poisoned foot fetishism for me, and I didn't properly realise he had until someone else's surprise at my negative reaction to the subject prompted a little introspection. The "one fur" wanted to know about nothing but feet, that was all he was interested in and nearly all he would talk about, *and* the more disgusting they were, the better he liked them. I cybered with him twice, actually more like 1½ times, and there was nothing in those sessions to traumatize me. I think what did it was his behavior outside of cybersex. He would call me up constantly, wanting to know about my feet and only my feet; the rest of me didn't matter.

In the end I muted him, one of only 3 people I ever muted in Second Life, and the only one who I never unmuted despite the fact that he had never committed a clear offense. One of the other two was also muted for being more needy than I could cope with, but he never affected me anywhere near as badly as the foot fetishist. I really don't know how he managed to upset me so much. I'm only half-joking when I say if one in a thousand furs were like him, it might be sufficient to get everyone freaking out at the mention of feet!

Alternatively and unrelated to my experience, some people are quite happy to see naked feet on the beach, when children are playing on grass, when they've just got out of the shower, and at various other times when they're not thinking about them, but at other times any mention of "feet" will be blindly interpreted to mean "really disgusting stink". I really don't understand what sets them off, it's certainly nothing rational, and it seems to spread just like the irrational fear of spiders. Heh, at least people have more of an excuse for connecting feet with stinkyness than for being terrified of spiders. :D

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