I have been having some issues with my mate. I moved in with him a year ago and things were great at first then I slowly found out things about him: he would choice to watch yiff instead of being intimate, he would lie about things, borrow money from places and not say a word; he would lie through his teeth all the time. I lost so much trust for him; he would enjoy himself while I was at work. then lie. When we made love, I would cry and he would say he’d stop for our relationship; then the second I walk away he goes and does it again; he would lie until I proved it.
I finally got him to stop for about a week now, but other things came up.
We were behind on the rent thanks to his borrowing, so I asked my dad for help. I got in so much shit for him and my dad put the money into his account. It didn’t go through to the man we pay the rent to, so today I said, "We are going to the bank to get it sorted." He flat out refused .... I ignored it, then I get a text from him: "What should I bring home for tea?" I said back to him, "Money in your account is for the rent, you haven’t spent it have you?" He had been buying himself snacks; he says he wouldn’t have "eaten into our rent," but honestly I know he is a big liar, I rang him and told him off.
I mean, it wasn’t even his money to spend!
I don't know what to do. We have to move in with my family soon because of money issues, and I don't trust him. I used to trust him with money, but now I don't. What should I do?
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Papabear thinks you know what to do. This guy is not good in bed, he is cheating you on money, and he lies about all of it. What, in all the gods’ names, do you see in him?
This will be my shortest reply ever for this column. Dump the jerk, kick him out, do so post haste, and get on with your life. He’s a bum and you deserve better.
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