Dear Papa Bear,
This may seem a small issue, however, I'm not sure how to handle it. I seem to be getting a lot of complaints about my Fursona. Some say she's been put in Rule 34 porn, Yet I've only been a Furry for 6 months, and practically nobody knows about me. I myself would never draw Pornographic images. Some others say she's too "Generic", and that "everyone" has a fursona like mine. I've also been accused of "stealing" her. What should I do about this? Should I change my fursona?
Thanks a ton,
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Papabear sent you an email asking to have a peek at your fursona, but he didn't hear back, so he will have to wing it.
Judging by your comments, my best guess would be that you have picked a fairly standard-looking fursona. Probably some kind of canine species, such as a wolf or husky. There are many many many of these in the fandom, with minor variations, such as the color of the fur and fur patterns. If that is the case, then there probably have been drawings of fursonas that look very much like yours that have been posted on furry sites far and wide.
Papabear believes that many furries like canines because, let's face it, they are Man's Best Friend, highly sociable, and cute and fun as can be. That's why they seem to be in the majority. That's not a bad thing; it's just the way it is.
Lui, you shouldn't change your fursona to please other people. You should choose one that suits YOU and who you are and what you feel best reflects you or an aspect of you that you want to emphasize. OR, it should reflect someone or something you wish to be. If that happens to be a common husky, that's fine. Don't worry about it, and don't worry about what other people say. The worst thing you can do is let other people decide who and what you should be.
On the other paw, don't be surprised if, somewhere down the road, your fursona changes or evolves. This, in fact, would be a reflection of you as you yourself age, change and evolve. In his previous lives, for instance, Papabear was a dragon and a wolf. Now he's a happy uncle bear.
Don't worry about what others say, hon. Be you. And when you're not you, be your fursona. If it makes you happy, then that is all that matters.
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