I've had on online relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 months now and I'd like to introduce him to my mom, but I don't know how to do it. I'm afraid that if I tell her about him, she will believe he is some deviant trying to lure people in online. She has done this before with a conversation she found on my phone involving some fur friends. She doesn't know I’m a furry though she does know I’m gay. Any advice?
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Once again, furries and folks everywhere, an online relationship is not a real world relationship. If I were your mom and you introduced me to your online friend and said “I’ve been in a relationship with him for three months,” my first question would be, “Oh, yes? Where did the two of you meet and how?” And if you said, “Oh, we’ve never actually met except online in a chat room,” I would say, “Okay, call me when you have actually met and we’ll invite him to dinner.”
It’s cool that she knows and accepts you for being gay; if she accepts that, then being a furry would hopefully not be a big stretch for her, either, but don’t ask her to accept that the most important relationship in your life at present is with someone who only exists on a computer screen.
Your next step should be to meet your boyfriend somewhere in real life. At your place, at his place, somewhere in between, it doesn’t matter. If that’s not possible in any sense of the word, then go find a real boyfriend you can actually kiss and hold hands with. If it IS possible, then do so post haste, and then afterwards introduce him to your mother IN PERSON.
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