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I'm Taking a Break and Here's Why

10/12/2015

8 Comments

 
Dear Readers:

I recently got trolled. Some guy in Costa Rica wrote me two letters: one posing as a father of furries in America who needed some help and the other posing as an Orthodox Christian Serbian who hates furries. He later wrote and said I had been fooled and that I was basically a fraud and a lousy writer.

I try very very very very hard to help people on my website and I do it for no pay, taking time out of my busy schedule to do this. To give my heart to people, to reveal to them my innermost personal life and try to share the love of being furry and then to be emotionally manipulated like this doesn't make me angry. It makes me feel like I shouldn't even bother.

I've blocked this guy's emails, but there's no guarantee he won't disguise himself again and try to waste my time.

Therefore, the letter form on my site has new fields. One requires your real address and the other a phone number. These will not be posted on the site or shared with advertisers, but I WILL be calling people and checking this information to verify you are who you say you are.

I am sorry for any inconvenience this may cause. Sadly, we live in a world where some people get their jollies out of wasting people's time and trying to make them look like fools.

I appreciate your cooperation. I had to to this or risk the site becoming a useless den for trolls and shutting it down.

As it is, this guy's prank is going to make the process much slower and will probably result in some people who could use my help to not write to me. For this, I am very sorry.

I am also taking a hiatus. Writing "Ask Papabear" for three years has proven emotionally exhausting for me. I've written before how helping people gives my life purpose. Now it seems that my life's purpose is just garbage to some people.

​I am going to focus on the Furry Book for a while. I don't honestly know when I will be back. The letters I have in the queue will be answered privately and not posted here.

Thank you,
A Very Sad Papabear

Quoting the email I got from him this morning:

Thank you,Papabear.

You still think that you can talk behind my back and escape with no casualties?

What is it?Isn't this a surprise!Ohhhh...That is right!Ahahaha...It was me all along.Kevin.

Both "Russell" and "Garry" are MADE UP.Serbia?I just randomly picked it.
Ahhhhh....Gross....I had to act that "Perfect family guy"...You fell for it.

Face it,the masquerade is over,and you gave me proof that you are just a coward who does not even have courage to face that "Idiot".

You may deny it,you will for sure.But,you even taught me something.You are ignorant...

You trusted Garry just because his wife and daughter is a furry.
And the other thing,you won't trust Russell because he is against the fandom.

So,after all,am I an  idiot.You bet I am!But,you are too,Kevin.

I am A hacker.You don't need to trust me.Both this accounts are stolen.

I live in Costa Rica actually.

Quite a shock Isn't it?I needed both accounts.One to milk out answers from you,and the other to frustrate you.Thanks for blindly believing me,Kevin.Ohhhh....Your face expression is priceless!I can only imagine the dread in your eyes!

But not everything is black and white here.You learned something today.Humans are assholes aren't they?
No,that is not it.Look,who am I?Just a random ass from the internet who does not have anything better to do in life but to hack and troll.You are somebody,you help people.Seriously.Great job!Continue doing that.Don't let this heap of shit make you think otherwise.No matter what others say,just keep doing it.

Bye bye.


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8 Comments
"Costa Rica" dude
10/12/2015 09:05:12 am

WOW Papabear,why are you doing this,I just wrote a whole mail on how this was all just reseach,and by the time that I wrote it you wrote this?!NO!Do not take a brake man!It is not worth IT!Please read this!

There is no Costa Rica dude,that is just a explanation on how trolls act on people!I thought it might be a fun way for a research but this is too much!I DID NOT ASK FOR THIS!Read this please!

[Dear Papabear,before you delete this or block my email,please read this letter,it clears a lot out :).And finally I am on my computer now,I already sent this letter to you from my tablet BUTTTT...I accidentaly clicked "back" and I am scared if it did not send it at all.So I literally wasted 50 minutes if it did not send it.And,I am on my computer now,which will take my like 10 minutes to write the same.It will be a little shorter because I forgot some things.Ohhh yes,post this.Thanks for reading :)]

Hello Papabear,

Wow God!I am so SORRY that you are so upset :O !I will explain the real thing now,and you will probably laugh after I explain it.
Ok,so this may be really hard for you to understand or to trust me,but I think that you will understand.

First of all,I am a 14 year old Serbian Orthodox,I am heterosexual (straight),but no need to explain that because you already know that.The story about my family is true by the way,but the rest of my email isn't.Why?You will see that in a moment.
Ok,so first of all,both "Garry" and "Rusell" are fictional (Rusell is actually my username for my second account),I have 2 accounts.Sorry if this angered you so much :'(.

I am sorry if I look like a liar in your eyes,I am not for furries but there are things that I love like porn and art.Which I will explain in a short while,in more detail.

So here is the real REAL thing.Carefully read the next sentences because they will change your mind and make you laugh about this XD.
Since I was 13,I started to understand a lot of things about the world,and realised that the world is...crap.But this world is also very beautifull!I also discovered the furry fandom,I was in love with furry characters until 13,but after that,I began to feel good and proud because I am human (Just like in the Rusell story).Butttttttt...That is not IT,yet.
Ohhh..Here it is!

Sadly,I lost my beautifull furriness inside me,and ever since I stumbled across the furry fandom,I wanted to research it.I also discovered that a lot of people in the furry fandom are trolled and flamed because of who they are,and as who they identify as.I was in a heavy search for more experienced true furries,the ones that are a part of the fandom for a while and know knowledge,so to say.After many drama queens and trolls who pretend to be furries,after many inactive experienced furries (Artists,Writters....)...I accidentaly stumbled upon your website.As I carefully read through columns,I saw that you are a good guy who helps other people (Furries,mostly :) ),and I was happy that your website,well not the website,I was happy to have found you.After reading more and more columns,I decided that you are the one to help me with my research about the fandom (I would wait for the BOOK but it is too much man...too much :/,can't wait).
So,I decided to ask you...But,not in a normal way.If I simply asked you,it would not be fun,neither exciting.
I was creative and decided to use both my Rusell account and Garry.

You may feel betrayed now,but you won't be soon!

Why did I use 2 accounts?If you haven't figured it out yet,I will explain it right now.
I needed my Rusell account to be a reminiscent of a ignorant,troll hater that happens to hate furries.And Garry is a good loyal family man,who happens to be a non-furry and asks a furry for help.

Rusell's role is to "milk out" your reaction to a troll,and a idiot,obviously.Rusell obviously talks nonesense about the fandom and pretends like he posseses "The Wisdom of the ages".If you haven't figured it out yet.I was really SURPRISED to see how you reacted on your first reply.You were so polite,thoughtfull of your words and you really impressed me.I thought that you would just ignore the letter,but you DID NOT ignore it!Instead you replied to it as a gentleman,and you did not judge him because of his (Obviously my religion and sexual orientation,both nationality) opinion on furries,his nationality,his religion,and most importantly,his sexuality.No,you did acknowledge that he is different,and you did not judge him for it.But,as trolls usually do,they DO NOT EVER listen to common sense.I learned that the hard way,via....Youtube comments...I got burned bad there,do NOT EVER go there Papabear,these people are maniacs!Literally,the youtube comments give you cancer (God no).
Back to the topic.You did the good thing.You kept your cool and you did not give up.That really impressed me.
I did this to see how would furries react to a troll,or simply a man that has other views on the world.As a representative of the furry fandom (You are the representative,not me

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"Costa Rica dude"
10/12/2015 09:33:20 am

I,I deleted that message because it was too much...I decided to writte you that research thing....BUT IT SEEMS LIKE IT WAS ONLY DELETED ON MY TABLET.And when I checked my two emails,I was shocked!That piece of shit was still there!

I quickly deleted it,thinking that you still did not read it,hut you did somehow!

We'll come on!You are going to let a kid ruin your website?!People need you man!Come on others,tell him!

But,if you will just ignore this,then it would mean that.....that....NO...NO WAY...A KUD RUINED A WEBSITE,and the more funny thing is that he did not even try!

Costa Rica?Bullshit!I just made that up.It portrays how much desperate trolls are to achieve their goal...

And if you decide to take a break,then I am going to email you everyday,every night,every day and every night!

Is it possible that a fake troll actually....no,that can't be!A FAKE troll ruined a WEBSITE...

If you leave your fellow furries,then you are not even a writter...If you leave them because of my research,then you really are a loussy writter,and I will be TERRIBLY dissapointed.

Thanks for reading!

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"Costa Rica dude"
10/12/2015 09:46:39 am

Ohhhh yes,of course,the website will be ruined because the damn computer can't copy THE ENTIRE LETTER,and I have it stored on my computer,in a readme file...But guess what?I am on my tablet again!And even worse!The computer IS OCCUPIED!

GREAT!Perfect timing,just great!

I wrote really good things about furries but no.....It does nit even show that part!

Ohhh...no,I destroyed a WEBSITE....I feel so bad man...

Ok,DO NOT QUIT!

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Wolfennar
10/12/2015 10:19:49 am

Assuming you're honest here, if you really want to somewhat repair your mistake then simply excuse yourself and then leave him alone. For good. All we can see here is that you, one way or another, lied to him again and again, as such understand you cannot be trusted in any way. The best way for you to prove you're sorry is to stop sending him emails and stop commenting here.

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"Costa Rica" dude
10/12/2015 11:28:03 am

Ok,I am leaving.No one believes me so there's no guarantee of success...I am just a troll.

He left out the part when he called me "the filth of society" and that I am just a asshole.

Nobody gives a shit,this will just get deleted anyways.

I hope that Papabear finds happiness in his life.Really I do.

Claire
10/12/2015 11:52:52 am

Why Papabear?Why do we have to suffer because some "wise" guy wanted to make you look like a fool?
I love your work Papa,it really comes from deep within.I wanted to send you a letter,I wanted you too help me,but now...It is not going to happen!

Damn you Costa Rica guy!Hey you said that you are leaving,maybe after you leave,this site will become normal again.
And your story sucks.Who would fall for that shit?You deserve these words.He only wanted to help people...

PLEASE PAPABEAR COME BACK!

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Papabear
10/12/2015 12:56:05 pm

just for the record, I never called him the "filth of society."

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warnera14
9/5/2018 05:51:46 am

I know this happened a few years ago but I'm so sorry you ever had to deal with such an awful, manipulative and disgusting hypocrite. He calls YOU a fraud, yet hid between two accounts?

Such arrogance when I read what the "Costa Rica guy" said. Your work has helped me and certainly has helped others. Hope you continue to help others more in the future. Thank you, Papa Bear.

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