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If You're Too Shy You Might Miss a Great Chance at Love

10/12/2014

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Hello Papa Bear,

This is my first time asking you a question and I freaking luv your stuff!!

I'm a very shy fox who is lonely, I draw stuff because I luv to draw!!

Here's my question: I have a best friend (who is a male) who I know since 3 months ago. 2 months ago, It was his birthday and I gave him a best birthday ever! He loves my drawing of our fursona and I love his great attitude! We have alot in common and we both are Bi.

The problem is that i want to tell him that I "like" him, but he has "friends" and all of the left him and one died....

I want to be his partner, but i'm too shy to ask him and what if he said no. He is always getting lonely and i want him to feel better by being his partner.

What am i suppose to do? Do I tell him? Do i wait? or should i not tell him?

From, 
David, Little Fur

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Hi, Little Fur,

I think you are overthinking things. If you truly love this guy and you like each other and have fun with each other and could both potentially be very close, then just tell him your feelings. I know you're afraid of scaring him away, but if you don't ask you'll never know. Perhaps he is feeling the same thing and is wondering if he should ask YOU! If neither of you say anything, then nothing will happen.

Sometimes, when you are too shy, you miss opportunities in life, and that would be a shame. Just be honest with the guy. Worst case scenario: he says he likes you but isn't in love with you. In which case, you'll know and you'll stop torturing yourself with what-ifs. If this happens, say that you understand and that you wish to continue the friendship as is.

Another thing that could happen is he might not be ready NOW but he might be LATER. So, keep yourself in the game. Be honest, and if the answer isn't quite what you wanted, don't pout and be a drama queen about it because that's a sure way to scare someone off. Keep your head on straight and continue the friendship.

And, if he DOES return the affection, you'll feel awesome and wonder why you waited so long to ask.

Wishing You Love,
Papabear
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