I have a problem and it involves this guy I really like. His name is Jordan and he is really nice. I know this question has been asked many times before but I don't know how to tell him that I am a furry. Ever since I was a boy I found the whole idea of a furry very intriguing. But I kinda knew many people wouldn't accept me. When I told my parents they called it a “phase.”
I have never had to do this before and I have never liked a guy as much as I love him. We have had some sexual encounters but I am afraid that it might put him off if I tell him I want to wear my furry ears and tail. I know it is not for everyone.
I have heard him mock the group before but I cannot tell if it is a joke or not. I don't know if he would be more accepting if he knew that I loved him.
Please respond as soon as possible, I want to tell him quickly
Have a nice day,
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I know the feeling. After I fell in love with Jim, I decided to tell him I was a furry. I was very nervous about it. One night we were in bed, I gulped, and I told him. And you know what? He said, “Why were you so nervous about telling me? I think it’s cute, and even if I didn’t I would love you anyway.” Now that’s real love. Jim was not a furry himself, but he came with me to furcons and other events and we have photos of us together with me in fursuit.
You might, therefore, be surprised by telling him and getting a response that thrills you!
Before you put the cart before the horse, however, I would suggest that your first step should be telling him that you love him. If he loves you back and says so, then the furry thing should not be an issue (if it is, then he’s probably not the one for you). If he says he doesn’t feel the same way about you and plays the “let’s just be friends” card, then it won’t matter whether you’re a furry or not in that case, either.
My advice to you, therefore, is tell him about your feelings of love first, then tell him you’re a furry. Real love accepts you for who you are, and you should never feel fear about being who you are with the one you love.
Get it? Good luck! Hope it comes out like you hoped!
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