Hi Papabear, it’s me again.
The relationship took a turn for the worse. He only wanted sex, like I feared, and I broke it off.
He ended up missing me, so when he contacted me I told him all about myself, and he “changed his mind” very abruptly. So I think I'm done trying to date non-furries.
So my question is: How do you find other furries to date? Like websites, tactics, and such.
How have other furries gotten together in the past? Especially young furries.
I hope you can help me. I am tired of being alone and getting burned.
Thanks in advance,
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[Note to Readers: You can read BlueEye's previous letter to Papabear here.]
I’m very sorry it didn’t work out, but at least you found out what his true motivations were before investing too much time in that relationship.
While you didn’t find love with that mundane, it doesn’t mean it’s impossible to find love with someone else who is not a furry. However, I understand your desire to find that special someone who shares your furriness and, luckily for you, there is some help online.
Before I had a boyfriend, I thought of checking out other furries, too, and the first site others told me about was Pounced! at http://pounced.org/. Pounced is actually rather a bit of a hook-up site, but is also used for dating and people seeking friendships. You can also check out Furry Date (http://www.furrydate.com/) and Furry Mate (http://furrymate.wordpress.com). In addition, you can locate furries in your area using the Internet Furry Proximity Locator (http://ifpl.cattech.org) or the Furry Finder (http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/), the latter of which I found rather clunky and hard to use.
(Dear Readers, if you know of any other helpful sites, feel free to post in comments below. Thanks!)
Possibly of more value would be to locate a local or regional furry group, such as, depending on where you live, SoCalFurs or Midwest Furries (Midwest Furries at http://www.michiganfurs.com/ includes an excellent locator map with your free membership). And you can find local furry Meet-up Groups by going to www.meetup.com and searching for “furry” and “anthros.”
Of course, if there were an easy formula for finding a mate, and Papabear knew it, this bear would never work again because I would write a best-selling book and make millions. In reality, finding someone in your life can be difficult. In my experience, the harder you hunt, the worse luck you will have. Instead of tracking down a mate like a wolf hungry to eat a rabbit, what you do is create and participate in situations that increase your odds of finding a mate.
Once you find some furries near you, let the socializing begin! Because really the only way to find someone to love is to meet people and spend time with them. Some will become acquaintances, some friends, some best friends, and, with luck, one will become a deep loving spirit in your life.
Remember! While you can make friends online, if you want love you’re going to have to meet the other person—shocker!—in person!
As for the question how do other furries get together (especially young ones), I would have to say there are as many ways to do that as there are furries. The basic tactic is to find someone who shares at least some of your beliefs and interests, become involved in their lives, and always, always be kind, considerate, and loving to them.
Hope these tips help.
Big Bear Hug,
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