I was told of your site by a furry friend
My story starts off 4 years ago, I lost both my mom and dad in a horrible car crash, I survived but only just as I had been told that doctors were so close to turning off my life support after no response from me until a heart flutter came up. Later when I was discharged I had to began organising a lot of arrangements for the funerals. At the funeral was one of my best friends who looked after me a lot. (I’ll call him Bestfriend 1) afterwards he came and checked on me nearly every day and was very caring, he’d even take me shopping or for walks just to get me out of the house.
Time passed and I soon tried to let it slip my mind because of the fact they weren’t coming back and nothing I could say or do would do anything.
Anyway 2 years later (being 2 years ago) Another friend (I’ll call him Bestfriend 2) suggested I go along with him and his mom to a furry meet, I rejected the offer however he insisted and finally I accepted, I went to it and found myself surrounded by furries, I don’t know what happened because I fainted a they’d gathered around me, (it was like some kind of overload of the love that I hadn’t had for the past 2 years.) I began falling into the furry world and thought these guys were adorable and I decided to join, I got myself a basic suit as I couldn’t afford a fursuit and began trying to fit in.
Another year later (being last year) I bumped into (bestfriend 2) at a meet and while we were all in fursuits they talked about me moving into their house the reason being was that I was beginning to fall behind on the new rental charges and the “bedroom tax” as its being dubbed here in the UK, I had no other choice and as the council were wanting the house back to put a new tenant in I had it hanging over me for ages before I agreed. I got my things and moved in, (bestfriend2)’s place was bigger than my family’s home and while it was different I felt settled in and I knew I could rely on them. Both (bestfriend 2) and his mom were happy to have me move in with them and are both in the furry community too. (Bestfriend 2’s) dad had never been on the scene and wasn’t a caring dad he wanted to do his own thing and that’s what he did, he had nothing to do with (bestfriend 2) or his ex partner (bestfriend 2’s) mom.
Anyway this brings me to 4 months ago I’ve been here for a while now and at furmeets I’m seeing (bestfriend 2’s) mom in a new light, she’s more beautiful and sexy. (I honestly can’t believe I’m saying this about my bestfriend’s mom) (bestfriend 2’s) mom is in her early 40’s and I’m in my mid 20’s, it’s just she’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever felt passion for, I had a few relationships at school when I was 16 but they never got anywhere. I’ve been having sexual feelings for her and she’s been feeling the same about me. To seal our love we went to a furry convention and booked ourselves adjoining bedrooms at a hotel nearby. However at the con nearby while travelling between floors the lift suddenly stopped the lift had broken down and I and she were stuck in it.
With no sign of help nearby and no-one picking up the emergency phone we could only sit it out. Soon enough though we began talking seriously about our love for each other and began nose booping and touch each other’s fur and soon enough we were both in heat as our species joined together as we made love inside the broken lift. We had both climaxed several times while waiting and finally help was here. We were both hot and sweaty, the lift smelling of our love making.
We sensibly took the stairs and decided to go to our hotel room. Where (bestfriend 2) had been waiting asking us where we were, we told him the lift had broke and after a long day we got some sleep, in the early hours though I sneaked out of my bed and went into the adjoining room where (bestfriend 2’s) mom was sleeping and I gently woke her up and asked if she really did love me, to which she replied yes. That was all I needed to hear and we began love making in our fursuits again, a lioness making love with a younger male fox, we even began making our animal noises trying to cover up the squeaking from the bed springs her low growling and me just whimpering.
So its now the present day, me and (bestfriend 2’s) mom are in a secret satisfying sexual relationship and that is how we like it, though I am feeling really guilty each time after I’ve made out with my lioness lover because it’s her son and my bestfriend.
I love the sex but the fact I’m having sex with my bestfriend’s mom.
What should I do?
I don’t want to break off the relationship but I don’t want to lose my bestfriend either.
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Dear Question Mark,
Very sad about losing your parents and all you went through :-( As for your current situation....
Putting this into perspective a bit, there is nothing morally wrong, objectively speaking, with your falling in love with an older woman, or vice versa. You are both of legal age, and although there is a definite sexual component here, it sounds as if there might be more to it than sex and you genuinely have feelings for her, yes? So that’s good. Now, I am a bit concerned about your descriptions here as it sounds as if you might be having unprotected sex (I doubt you had several condoms on you when you yiffed in the elevator, for example). You both need to be responsible here, and I would caution you to be thus. I mean, the last thing you would want would be a baby, correct? Talk about complicating matters!
So, the only overt factor in question is her son. It’s difficult for me to gauge this because I have no idea what kind of person he is. I’m surmising, though, that he is not a conservative Christian and, seeing that his mom is a furry, too, he is probably fairly liberal-minded. The main problem might be his feeling that “this is so weird ... is my best friend now my father?” or some such.
You also need to evaluate the value of your relationships here. If you love this woman deeply and it would crush your soul if you split up, that would probably outweigh the importance of your relationship with your friend—although that would still be part of the scenario; it would be a matter of that relationship drastically changing. If, on the other paw, this is just infatuation and hot sex (do not mistake hot sex for love, even if she says “I love you” it might mean “I love sex with you”) then your friendship with her son might be more important.
One way you might determine this has to do with your fursuits. Your letter sounds as if when you have sex it has been in your fursuits. Could it be that you’re in love with each other’s fursonas (you talk about her being your “lioness lover”)? This is not beyond the scope of possibility, and one way you could figure this out is to have sex without the fursuits on. Have you done this? If not, that is quite telling! And in that case, I would say that you should definitely reevaluate what you are doing here. (In fact, that is kind of this bear’s sense of this that it is a furry fantasy you’re in love with, but I could be wrong).
You also don’t say what the lioness feels about this. Is she fine with telling her son? Is she fearful? Why or why not? That’s important information. It’s not just your responsibility to eventually tell your friend but hers as well.
All of that is not a conclusive answer to your question, but the above items are all things to consider and weigh before you make your final decision.
Please write again if you have more information or questions.... And good luck!
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