Hello Papa Bear:
My fursona says it all, I consider myself a polar bear and I've been a furry for two years more or less, the reason of why I'm asking for your advice is because I have a little problem, so I'll start by the beginning: I live with my aunt in Seattle, my parents works a lot and (almost) the only times I can see them is on weekends, so she has been there for me whenever I needed some help and advice. I'm an art student and love it. Recently we've been having this... how can I say it... we feel this sexual attraction for each other; I know this is wrong and can't be possible but that's it. This attraction is so strong that ended into sexual intercourse more than once; honestly, I don't know how it happened, I guess you can say that “only happened.” Of course, I haven't told my parents about it because surely they will freak out and probably might want me to stay away from my aunt but I just can't help it and love her in the romantic way more than in the familiar way. Maybe this is the first time someone asks you about advice about cases of incest, I've been dealing with this for more than 4 months and this love for my aunt is not leaving me. I've been having these guilty/satisfaction feelings when I'm with her, there are sometimes when we even go out as a couple but then I realize that I'm dating my aunt and minutes later I just don't care. Can you help me with this? I mean, I need some advice, when it is normal? is it common? With love, Anonymous * * * Dear Anonymous, Although of course you are going to have a big problem with your family about this if they ever find out, you have a bigger problem. Incest is illegal in most states in the USA, including where you live, Washington state. The penalty for incest, which includes intercourse with a parent, sibling, one of your children, a grandparent, a niece or nephew, and, yes, an aunt or an uncle, is 14 years in Washington. Be glad you don’t live in North or South Carolina, Tennessee, Mississippi, Louisiana, Alabama, Georgia, or Florida, where you can get life in prison (interestingly, my former home state of Michigan has no problem with incest [no legal code against it, anyway]—somehow that’s not surprising to me given some of the residents I’ve seen there). So, forgetting the morality of it, you should stop this relationship now. Your aunt is also criminally guilty and needs to be informed of this and start acting like an adult instead of having sex with her 19 year old nephew. I’m not really going to get into the morality of this. I don’t really have to because the legalities of it should be enough incentive, I hope, for you to stop. As well as the fact of how this relationship would really create havoc within your family should it be discovered. And, trust me, it WILL be discovered if you let it continue long enough. I would also recommend that both of you get some counseling. No, this behavior is not normal and it is not common, though it does happen. I think you are letting your hormones run away with you and control your actions; your aunt should be ashamed of herself for participating with you and encouraging you. I hope the fact that you could both go to prison will be enough to get you to stop. Finally, I recommend that you change your living situation as soon as possible. I hope you will listen to my advice. Good luck. Papabear
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Well, for once I can disagree with the advice given. Hope that's okay.
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Papabear
9/4/2013 01:40:11 pm
Hi, Critter. You're correct that incest cases are rarely prosecuted. You are also correct in saying that just because it's illegal now doesn't mean it's wrong (and you give the case of Rosa Parks). Both are good points.
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sam
3/4/2014 07:07:48 pm
i was going through same problem of attracted by aunt and even after my parents has discovered our relationship and are very upset angry about me. what to do??
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Papabear
3/5/2014 04:02:15 am
Hi, Sam. If you would like to write me about this, feel free.
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Iv fantasized about doin my au t I'm mid 20s she's almost 60. Nd there is somthing there between us we know it. We never talked about it but things hav been obvious I pinched some lace panties for me to sniff lol I know they got seen but just let me keep em haha, there must b a reason y we wanna no one else excites me In my family and my aunt is gettin on too.lol holiday to her house this year nd I'm gunna. Pile on the charms lol. I reckon its cuming hope its not too much, its just pure lust. So I think kamagra in her drink aunt n nephew porn on the pc. And I think I'll just grab her then.finally release the beast iv got for her.lol
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Man
12/28/2017 07:26:43 pm
Me and my aunt have been going through a little bit of intamisey throughout the years. I am also in mid-early 20's. It's more love between us two than lust. We both have no kids, a lot of common interests, and I share a quarter of her kromazones. So it's not full incest if something were to happen between us two.
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Papabear
12/29/2017 09:50:02 pm
Well, technically, it depends on the state. In Arkansas, for example, sex with an aunt or uncle IS consider incest. Also, you don't have to be a blood relative. Sex with an adopted child is considered incest under the law, too. So, it is tricky ground.... If you really wish to know, look up the laws in your state or country.
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Ted
10/22/2019 04:28:50 am
It's my birthday this week and I'll be 34 years old. My mother passed 10 years ago and my auntie's the only person in my maternal family that I've kept in contact with. My 65 year old aunt's a married mother of two, her husband works away often and her children have long since left home. I've never had a girlfriend and even though I'm good in my own company I get very lonely, I've been in despair lately. There is no end in sight to my problem which has affected my mental health and professional life. As a way of coping I abuse alcohol and my self harm's escalated to the point on two occasions in the last month where I felt my life's been at risk.
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Elliot
1/10/2022 02:06:16 pm
Wow this feels like it was me who wrote this... Can relate alot.
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