Been a long time since I last wrote and I wonder if you will remember me. But that's beside the point.
I'm righting today because I want your opinion on something. I'm 26 and currently living my parents. But I'm thinking ahead a bit to when I live on my own. Thanks to my past I've grown to dislike my birth name. Specifically, I was bullied up through high school which led to the dislike of my first name. And my relationship with my father is iffy at best, a verbal war at worst, which has led to the dislike of my last name.
When I first joined the fandom in 2009-2010, it really helped cheer me up from the hardships of my past. A lot of my good friends (all furries, but still) refer to me by my fur name rather than my birth name.
My question for you is, when I move out, is it odd for me to want to legally change my name to my fur name? I feel that doing so will make it easier to forget how bad my past has been.
I appreciate your response.
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There’s an old saying: “You can’t run away from your past.” Changing your name will not help you to forget the past. However, I understand what you are saying. There are many reasons to change one’s name: getting married, getting divorced, getting adopted, having a sex-change operation, and so on. Trying to start your life anew is also a legitimate reason.
I do know of a couple people who are friends of mine who have had their last name changed because they had unpleasant memories of—in particular—their fathers. So, to answer your big-picture question: no, it is not “odd” to change one’s name for personal reasons.
The next issue is what to change your name to. Your current name (which I will not reprint here) sounds like that of a male of Italian-American background. Your furry name, Kumori Urufu, if I have this right, means “Shadow Hippo” in Japanese. Well, whatever it means exactly is not so much the point as the fact that it is Japanese, and I suspect you do not look Japanese. You should prepare yourself as to how this would affect you socially and in the workplace. People will constantly be asking you why you have a Japanese name when you are obviously not Japanese. (And in the furry community might get you accused of being a weeb, although being fascinated by Japanese culture is common in the fandom.)
If you are okay with that, then fine. But if you are dead-set on changing your name, I would recommend you think long and hard about what you are changing your name to before you do so.
The actual process of changing one’s name legally is not too difficult, especially if you hire a service to help you out, such as NameChangeInc.com, which offers this service to adults for only $65. It is important to change your name legally so that your identity can be tracked for things such as social security, taxes, employment, etc. The good news is that if you, say, years later, decide you have made a horrible mistake, you can change your name back again.
Hope this answers your question.
8/22/2017 02:55:22 pm
I appreciate the response and see your point, although Urufu actually means Wolf rather than Hippo
8/23/2017 07:59:24 pm
You can scarcely go wrong with introducing yourself to new people as your furry name, or otherwise requesting that people use it.
8/25/2017 10:11:52 pm
I've often thought of changing my name to my furry name. Gero Murdock is my furry name. I love it far more than my dead common 'real' name. It's also something I feel more connected with. Its who I really am. I am...Gero. I love that name, I love who that person is. I love being that person. The only reason I haven't yet, even living on my own, is that the people around me would...probably not adjust well to it. And I'd still end up using my 'real' name. But go for it. If its you, its you =)
8/26/2017 06:47:06 pm
I felt the same way. My real name has such a burden due to my relationship with my mother so I completely understand. I legally changed my name to part of my screen name and it was like a weight had been lifted.
8/26/2017 07:50:22 pm
I changed my middle name to my fursona name to eliminate a not favoured relative's name and a cursed Jr. from it. When I retire, I am going to change it to just my fursona name only.
8/26/2017 08:59:15 pm
Go with papabear's idea. Pick a name for yourself that won't lead people to ask why you have a seemingly Japanese name. It may cause embarrassment for you later.
11/22/2019 04:21:19 pm
I joined the fandom back in 2014, I'm a pretty young furry, age 17. Its been my dream to legally change my name to my fursona name, as my birth name is something that actually makes me sick... I can't explain it, every time someone calls me it, I just want to throw up... Strange I know, but that's how I've felt since about 3rd grade. The problem I face is my anti-furry parents, they've condemned me from being a furry and even liking raccoons (My fursona's species). Its been a hard trip through my life so far and changing my name to my fur name would breath new life into me. I just have to wait, and now its harder then ever because I am so close to that age where I can. Its been a struggle, but I am so near... Anyways, if you would like to do that I would encourage you to! Because I'm sure you would be such a happy person with it and I would too! Cheers!
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