Hi Papa Bear. I must first admit that I really like what you are doing. To answer so many questions for so many people and don't ask to be paid for that is something that should be really cherished by people and you deserve all my respect for doing so.
Second, I want to mention that I am native French. So if you find out that my English is partly screw-up, you will know why :)
Okie, so I must start my to explain my situation before asking my question out!
I fell in very deep love two times before. I am out of these now and am now working on my third crush since some months ago. But, I noticed something about myself: when I am in love with someone, I feel like all the world is vanishing around me. I cannot forget about the one I am in love with, never. no matter where I am and no matter what I do, the one I am in love with will be stuck in my head and I can hear my subcouncious constantly repeating his name again and again.
Another point I've found out about me, when I am in love, is how much I can give for that person. I would be ready to sacrifice my life for the one I love and no matter what. No mistake here! I would not commit suicide for someone, but I would gladly give a hell to make sure the one I love is alright and have what he needs to have. It is the way I am in my relationship and with my lover.
I just cannot act otherwise, it is stronger than myself; this constant feeling of me wanting to be the best boyfriend this person can have. To give this person all the love he can want and need to get. To give this person all the support he need and want also. I just... I always want my lover to be happy. It is my biggest drive in life and also a big goal I want to reach one day: to be not far the perfect lover someone can have.
Since, I want to become the perfect lover someone can have and as off now, for the one I am in love with, I started to wonder about how I could become a better person and also to learn to appreciate myself more. I believe that if I can find the way to appreciate my own self, then I'll be able to give a better picture of myself to my lover and also to show him that I care to be someone he definitly will love and be able to count onto under any good or bad time. I even started to try to be more funny and talkative with others (I use to be not far asocial before). I also started to work my body out, so I can be in a better shape and look better to my mate. I also learned to cook healthy foods instead of relying onto frosty frozen pizza and stuffs like this every damn days. All of this, to make sure I can be the best he can have.
A last point I would like to mention about, is how much I feel the need to expose my relationship to other people. If you would go to my page on FA, I mean about my lover praticly everywhere. It is not because I am obsessed by him. I just cannot think about myself being in love with someone who love's me back too without telling anyone about it. So I spread the words wherever I can and show it off to anyone I can. I don't understand why some people get pissed off at me because I mean that much about my lover. I really once got one furry who litteraly got pissed off at me claiming I was showing off my relationship in the face of everyone. Lol, it is not under bad purpose I do that. My lover is the best thing I feel I can have. I cherish that person and feel God blessed to have him with me. It is my everything and my pride. And what people likes to do about their pride usually? In my though, it is to show it off to other, because your pride is suppose to be what you are the most proud about and so you want others to know about it. No obsession here, only simple pride about what makes me be one of the most happy man in the world ^^
Well, that was a long story I guess. Sorry about that. I use to write stories since my very young age, so to write a lot of details, even useless one is pretty much myself (like I do now). Anyways... My question about all of this is mainly "Does anyone else feels like I feel when they are in love and have a boyfriend or girlfriend to love and cherish?" Or am I simply an obsessed freak who is too much into his lover and such?
Anyone who could comment about this would be really appreciated by me.
Pierre-André Roy (age 26)
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Mon Cher Pierre-André,
There are a lot of women reading this right now, I would wager, who wish you were straight. Mon Dieu! You are such a lovely example of the French romantic! Since you are a furry, I am picturing you as Pepé Le Pew right now, pardonez moi.
There is certainly nothing wrong with you. You are a delight! And the people who chastise you for posting about your lover on the furry sites are simply jealous. Don’t worry about them.
I am wondering about the fact that you are on your “third crush since some months ago.” Crush usually means, in America, that you are enamored by someone but that it is not really a deep love. I think that might not be the word you meant. And you’ve had three lovers in just a few months? Are you scaring them off with your overenthusiastic ways?
I would caution you that a lot of people can’t handle the overzealousness of a très romantique Frenchman, and something like this might happen.
Not because you did something wrong, but just that many people do not have the self-esteem to believe they deserve such positive attention. So, when you are choosing someone you feel is boyfriend material, be cautious. Find someone who is self-confident and returns your affections with comparable élan.
It might be that your youthful romanticism will fade with age. I hope not, but if it does, all the more reason to enjoy it now.
I’m sure there are others out there who have romantique hearts who can contribute to this conversation. Readers?
Wishing You Love,
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