He Found Out the Guy He Likes Tried to Have a Threesome with Other People

Hey Papabear, it's me again! :3 

Well... as you may remember, I have this friend that I like... but he... well... I'm starting to think he only likes how I treat him in sexual acts... and well... I was chatting with a female friend of mine (I feel that saying a girl friend... sounds weird) and he has been "teasing" with her, him and another friend we have in common to have a threesome... So yeah... my question is... should I give up on him? I talked with another friend and he agrees that he is "urged" and maybe that's why he lets me do this stuff... I told him last time that if he wanted another go, he could tell me anytime (I know I should only ask one question, but I think they're kinda 2 in 1 of course, answer any question you want). Do you think I should keep doing stuff with him? or should I stop?

Yang (age 18, Mexico)

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Dear Yang,

In your earlier letter http://www.askpapabear.com/letters/bi-furry-from-mexico-likes-a-guy-who-is-afraid-of-his-own-sexuality it sounded like your friend “E” was too nervous about being gay (or bi, whatever) to have a relationship with you. Now it sounds like he’s getting over that and wants a threesome with a man and a woman, yes? So, that sounds like he’s getting over his sexual hang-ups. Also in your earlier letter, you wanted a real relationship with E, but now to me it sounds like he just wants you for sex.

So, the question for you is this: would you be content with just a sexual relationship, or do you want a real relationship with him? If you just want sex, then you might still go for it (safely, of course), but I think you are deeper than that. I don’t think you want a player, I think you want a mate. If that’s the case, I think you can do better than E and should continue your search for someone who is deeper and more mature and is looking for the same things you are.

Good luck!

Papabear