This is something of a follow-up to a letter I wrote to you some years ago, questioning my own attitude towards being single after the end of a bad relationship (http://www.askpapabear.com/letters/is-it-okay-to-be-single-and-happy-about-it).
About two years ago, the Universe decided to throw a Dragon at me. He's a local fur, sweet, intelligent, remarkably handsome, and we get on quite well together. We've been friends for over five years, dating steadily for two, and I can honestly say I've never been happier with anyone.
He exhibits none of the behaviors that made my prior relationship such a trial; he's open-minded, accepting of our differences, doesn't demand obedience or undivided attention at all times and generally isn't a judgemental twit.
I did my utmost to conceal the very existence of Furry from my ex, with a remarkable degree of success. If he'd found out about it, his first reaction would have been to accuse me of inappropriate behavior with the dogs, and things would have escalated quite unpleasantly from there.
My ex hated video games, and on one occasion after watching me dismember stormtroopers with a Lightsaber in one of the Jedi Knight series, was on the verge of banishing them from the house (the game is rated T, with violence and other content approximating a PG-13 movie). My Dragon stomps my face into the dirt three times out of five in Hearthstone (online card game similar to Magic) and he and I have linked our Steam accounts in order to give each other access to our game libraries.
Dragon is open to new things. My ex firmly believed that anything he did not enjoy, appreciate or understand (including, but not limited to: video games, anime, any music created after 1985, modern communications technology, mobile phones, modern medical research and space exploration) should be destroyed. Suffice it to say I greatly prefer my current circumstances.
We have not spoken of any sort of permanent arrangement yet, for a variety of reasons, and I don't foresee us doing so any time soon, but we enjoy one another's company greatly.
To those who feel unlovable and that you will never find anyone, I say this: Never say never. Things you need tend to find you when you are least expecting them - or didn't even know you needed them.
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