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Fursuit Maker Needs Encouragement

10/7/2012

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Dear Papa Bear,

I am a fursuit maker, and a lot of people pick on me because my suits are not "professional." They call my suits all sorts of names and make fun of them. I try my best, though, and my friends say I am getting better. But it is to the point where I feel like quitting because the bad stuff hurts a lot. What do I do?

Thanks, 

Silver

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Hi, Silver,

Have you ever heard of the 10,000 hour rule? Papabear isn’t sure who said it first, but the idea is that to become outstanding at something that takes skill, such as playing the piano or painting, can be done by almost anyone if they show true dedication to getting better at it. 10,000 hours would be about 20 hours a week of practice for 10 years. A corollary to this rule is the 1,000 hour rule, which says you can get quite good at something by doing it for about 2 hours a week for a decade, or, if you want to step it up, about 9-10 hours a week for two years.

Not knowing how long you have been making fursuits, I can’t guess how far along you might be on either plan. But your friends have told you that you are improving, and if you continue to do so, eventually you will get to that “professional” quality other people are insisting you reach.

The question becomes, though, whom are you trying to please? Yourself or your critics? If you make fursuits because you enjoy it, then who cares what other people think? If you are doing it because you want to sell them for money, then listen to what they are saying about your fursuits and say, “I welcome constructive criticism and thanks for your input. I’m working really hard to improve my craft and I know I’m getting better at it.”

If, on the other paw, people are just being critical to be mean and hurtful, you can always ask to see the fursuits they made and... oh? They don’t make fursuits? They have no skills in making fursuits? Then maybe they should try making one themselves and see how difficult it is before criticizing someone.

Don’t be defensive of your work; instead, be assertive: “Each fursuit I make is better than the last, and even my worst fursuit is better than what you’ve done, which is nothing.”

Criticism can hurt, I know. As a writer, I have been criticized a lot. I have over 90 rejection letters from publishers and agents from my first book. It’s painful. But consider the source. Many critics don’t know what they are talking about, and through history many have been proven wrong, for example:

  • “[He is] unfit for a career in law or politics” –Winston Churchill’s father about his son, the future Prime Minister of England
  • She is “not pretty enough to be an actress and can’t sing that well.” –Barbara Streisand’s mother.
  • Leonard Bernstein’s father wanted his son to give up music and do something worthwhile.
  • A director said of Fred Astaire, “Can’t act, can dance a little.”
  • J.K. Rowling got more than 36 rejection letters for her Harry Potter books; and Stephen King spent years trying to break into the novel biz before publishing his first success, Carrie.

People who criticize others usually do so because they themselves are sad and pathetic, and saying mean things about someone else makes them feel that they are superior somehow. This, of course, is sick and twisted behavior. Furries who are not derps will see that you are trying to contribute something to the furry world, that you are getting better at it, and that you should be encouraged.

Keep Up the Good Fight!!!!

Papabear
6 Comments
Richard C (Mathan)
10/7/2012 03:25:24 pm

Excellent response, Papabear!

I'll be forwarding this column to another local fur with similar issues.

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Dumarsi
10/7/2012 08:06:00 pm

Very good Response, my ursine furiend!

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Papabear
10/7/2012 11:23:50 pm

Thanks, guys :-3

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Nivis Tigridis
10/8/2012 12:59:32 am

I would suggest that Silver ask "help / advice" of "professional" fursuit maker to see if they have hint, tips or are willing to "train" him on some skills he have hard time to do.

I've have the feeling some of them will be happy to share part of they're know how to somebody that WISH to learn and make EFFORT toward it.

And PapaBear you're comments are dead on as always.

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Papabear
10/8/2012 01:53:00 am

Yes, I considered suggesting they go to a fursuit maker for advice, but most fursuit makers I know would probably say they are far too busy to spend time tutoring another fursuit maker. I know there are some tutorials online that people have posted.

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Diamond Man
10/8/2012 05:59:06 am

HIGHLY AGREE

I heard an article on Flayrah saying we need more Criticism not too long ago, yes the whole fandom. (Also complained that others not focus on quality would somehow "hurt" the fandom I think.) I tried to explain that it should not be the whole, but only to people who want it and that it would be stereotype. And then the article owner claim it's the whole because of this and that, claiming that it would hurt the rating system when it's not even proven that it's only about quality, and that I think it's only about interest.

Due to that article and the odd replies, I started to hate that website a lot more now. It's a closed minded place maybe. Well sort of, depends on some users I guess.

Interesting article by the way Papa Bear. ;)

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