Furry with Feral Interest Is Limiting His Options for Friends and Love

Papabear,

I don’t know why but I am attracted to animals mainly the feral and anthro canine species with the correct anatomy. I have come to terms with it but I don’t have anyone in real life to interact with and the few that I do only one I can really talk with is taken so is not really willing to talk all that much about it. The only people I find are online and a few in real life and I’m not with them. I am so tried to being alone. I know there are other people out there. its just I give my all to people cause that is just me. I tend not to hold back and be a true friend I will not turn my back on someone I stand there are and be there for them through thick and thin cause that is what friends are for not just a trophy to discard when things get tough. I just don’t know what to do anymore I am breaking down the walls I put up but as the saying goes its a rough world out there and no one is going to make it easy. If you have read this through I thank you for your time.

Anonymous

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Dear Furiend,

Okay, what I think you’re saying here is that you are having a hard time finding other people who are attracted to feral animals the same way you are. Because of this, you feel alone and can’t find a mate.

I think the problem here is that you are limiting yourself too much. When seeking a partner in life, you shouldn’t be so one-dimensional. There is more to you than your sexual proclivities, just as, I would hope, there is more to other people than just this one aspect.

I’ve had similar letters from furries in which the person writing is frustrated because they can’t find a furry partner. I suggest to them that they broaden their sights a bit. My mate, Yogi, for example, is not a furry, but he is fur-friendly.

Try not to look at yourself in such a narrow way. Traditionally, when people asked others who they are, they might say, “I’m a lawyer” or “I’m a businessman” and so on. Americans often identify themselves by their occupations. If you were to ask me, I might give you a laundry list: “I’m an editor, writer, furry, gay man, bear, lover, mate, amateur philosopher, artistic soul, advice columnist.... but, most importantly, human being.”

My advice to you would be to stop obsessing about the fact that you like feral animals. When you interact with people, try to see the whole picture. Instead of meeting someone and hoping they share your sexual preferences, use a different measuring stick: Are they kind? Thoughtful? Fun to be around? Generous of spirit? Loving? These things are more important than a sexual desire that is routed only in fantasy, anyway. Perhaps, too, you can find someone who has their own sexual quirk and then you can have fun indulging each other in alternating role play.

While it is important to have some things in common with your partner, it makes for a more interesting relationship, too, if you don’t share everything in common. Let this interest of yours be one of those things and, when seeking a partner in life, make your top priority a person with a good heart.

Good luck!

Papabear