Hey. I have a question and I don't know who to ask anymore. What should I do about this friend of mine? To explain, I like having my main fursona and other forms I can use. Well this friend has decided it’s their concern as to which is my main one and that I really shouldn't have others. Now this person is a good guy which is why I put up with it. But I don't know if I can continue a friendship in which when I try to confront him about it he hides away, blocks me, and such. What in the world should I do?
* * *
A fursona is a very personal thing in this bear’s mind. Grubbs is my alter ego (hmm, or maybe Kevin is Grubbs’ alter ego, hee hee); I would never let anyone dictate to me my fursona because he is a very real part of me.
There are also furries, however, for whom a fursona is not that serious a thing, or they don’t even want a fursona because they just like reading furry comics and such and don’t care to actually be an anthropomorphic being. This is fine, too.
If you’re like me, then having someone essentially tell you who you are is highly offensive. If someone told me, “You can’t be Grubbs, you have to be a purple husky” I would make like John Cleese as the rude Frenchman and fart in their general direction, walking the other way. There are few things in the world that get this bear more ticked off than someone else telling me who I am or how to live my life. If I were in your shoes, I would (politely, at first, anyway) tell this furry that it really isn’t his business and my fursona is a reflection of who I am, not who he thinks I should be. If that ticks him off, too bad.
Now, you might not take your fursona as seriously as yours truly. As you mention, you have several; one you favor more, and several others. That’s fine. It can be fun switching fursonas and playing around with them. But, again, your main fursona is your choice. I don’t know why this other furry has it in his head that he should be telling you what to do with it. That’s like telling you what car to buy or what clothes to wear. Is it his business? No.
You say this person is a “good guy.” Well, that may be, but a good guy wouldn’t tell you what to do about your fursona (a good guy might try and tell you what to do if you were doing something harmful, like drinking and partying too much, but not this). He also certainly wouldn’t be a drama queen and block you and ignore you when you don’t agree with him. Sounds like he’s awfully immature.
If I were you, I’d stick to your guns and assert your right to pick your own fursona or fursonas. If he doesn’t like it, too bad. He needs to grow up and not be such a baby when other people don’t agree with him.
Keepin’ it furry, Micheal.
A note on comments: Comments on letters to Papabear are welcome, especially those that offer extra helpful advice and add something to the conversation that is of use to the letter writer and those reading this column. Also welcome are constructive criticisms and opposing views. What is NOT welcome are hateful, hurtful comments, flaming, and trolling. Such comments will be deleted from this site. Thank you.