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Furry Might Be Spazzing over Nothing

1/27/2013

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Hello Papabear,

I am 20 years old and have been a furry for 10 years. Anyway I have a friend who has been a furry for a long time, He's an amazing artist and we talk a lot almost everyday. I really love and care for him and he is too nice to say anything but Im afraid I'm hyping this relationship too much. He has this thing with his fursona's that he doesn't bottom ... but a few days ago I saw a pic of just that, he gave someone permission. I would never do that because I know how he feels. I just thought we were close. I mean he is really my hero he has really helped me a lot. I just don't know what to do. He's doing a pic for me right now with his fursona and mine, however I told him to do what he wants... meaning he picks what it will look like and what they are doing.. Anyway What should I do? (ps we live really far away)

King

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Hi, King,

I appreciate that you care for this artist and that you’ve had some bonding. Sometimes these long-distance things can really work out, if not as love relationships then at least as very special friendships, as has happened to me.

But I think that you are correct when you say you are “hyping this relationship too much.” In this relationship, we are talking about two people who have never physically met and one of these people is upset about a drawing. It’s not like he cheated on you and you caught him in bed yiffing another lover. This is, and indulge me the reiteration, a drawing!

So, what went amiss here? It could be simple miscommunication—something that is easy to do in person, and even moreso online; it could be that something caused him to change his mind about drawing his fursona in this way and he just didn’t bother or forgot to tell you.

In short, you are making a big deal over nothing. There is nothing in this little incident that should cause you grief or make you lose any sleep. Certainly, it is not worth causing any drama.

Calm down and continue your relationship with this furry, who seems like a pretty cool person overall.

Hugs,

Papabear

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