My name's Bluefluffy. I’m a young gay fur and I kinda fell in love with a fursona—not with the person himself, just with the fursona, and, more specifically, one picture of him. But it's quite useless to be in love like that. I can't hug him, and so it’s pretty hard, but I can’t keep him off my mind; I keep falling in love.
Next to that, the person himself is way older than me—I guess like 18 years older—and he lives in the US and I live in little Belgium in Europe. It can only make me sad by keep being in love with him.
I had a real-life boyfriend in the meantime, and I wasn't in love with that fursona anymore, but things went wrong and we broke up, so I’m single again. And I fell in love with that one fursona again :(
What can I do?
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Simple: this fursona that the American fellow has represents those traits that you find most attractive. What you should do, then, is take mental notes (or, even, write them down) as to what things about this furry character attract you.
These traits become the measuring stick you can use when looking for a mate to share your life with. Now, obviously, they can’t be physical traits like fur and a snout LOL, but rather it’s the personality traits you are seeking.
Keeping in mind that it is not too often you find someone who meets all your desires 100%, allow yourself a little leeway when socializing with potential boyfriends and mates. Don’t reject someone, in other words, just because that person isn’t perfect. No one is perfect, but you can get pretty close.
Let this fursona that you love, therefore, provide you with a model for what you seek.
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