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Double Dragon Dating Danger?

4/8/2013

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Hello Papa,

I am just getting into the furry community (like SoFurry) and I met a Dragon. I like him and it seems that he likes me too. But before that I met another Dragon. And I don't know if he still likes me.

What should I do?

Thanks in advice,

Dean

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Dear Dean,

Thanks for your letter. Well, you don't tell me much about either dragon, so I'm just winging it here. First of all, at your age (18), it is okay to date more than one person as long as you aren't telling any of them that you are being exclusive. So, if you like, date both of them. After you get to know them better, you'll gradually figure out which one is the better choice for you ... or it could even be that neither one is and you find someone else entirely. 

It is extremely rare for someone to fall in love with a "soul mate" as a teenager, finding exactly the right person, and spending the rest of their days together until they die. That's what happens in a Disney movie, not real life (in general, there are extremely rare occasions where it can happen, so no letters about that, please, thanks).

Even if you do fall in love and the other person falls in love with you and you go all the way to the Chapel of Love, chances are 50% or better you will eventually separate and find someone else.

So don't stress about it. This is a time in your life when you are getting to know love and relationships. During this time, you probably will find love, lose love, and find it again. Always treat the other person with respect and kindness, and see where it goes. Part of the adventure is not knowing. Relax and enjoy the ride. 

Hugs,
Papabear
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Eyon link
4/8/2013 11:36:09 pm

"Relax and enjoy the ride."
You man are a genius. This pretty much sums it all up. But I love how you put it. It's the simplest way to put it and it means a lot in a few words. Good luck to you, Dean!

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