There's something that I have been wondering about. Last week I went to the doctor to do my first HIV test and everything went OK, but I have noticed that safe sex is not something you see in the furry.
I'm sure that unconsciously leads to people to risk themselves with bareback sex. In my country it's common to begin with sex at 14 or 15, but if you are gay you can't tell anyone because they start with "You are going to burn in hell f*g", "What did I do to deserve this?" thing.
And well... The only information you can get is through Internet or friends, but in the time I have been in the fandom, just a Fox friend and ex-mate talked about condom. When I told my friends I was going to do an ELISA [a test for antibodies in the blood that could indicate an infection] they looked at me like I was the devil or something.
Why safe sex and sexual diseases are so excluded in a community like ours?
Toichi (age 16, Bogotá, Colombia)
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Thank you for bringing up a perennially important subject: safe sex.
I think you make some shrewd observations here, Toichi. Papabear has seen some risky behavior in the fandom, indeed. There appears to be some misinformation and false conceptions within the fandom. A big one is the belief many people have that if you’re not feeling sick or don’t show any symptoms, then you are safe. Here are some facts about that:
One factor about the attitude of furries and STDs, then, is that they are ignorant of the facts and the dangers. Another factor is trust: furry communities and friends within it can be tight, and people often extend trust to their friends that are not wise or deserved (“Trust me, I don’t have any STDs. I’m fine. Let’s play without condoms!”) But it’s not just friends, it’s a culture. Once, my mate, Yogi, and I were out with some furries at a restaurant. A female furry leaned over to my partner and, placing a paw on his knee, said (not kidding), “One of the great things about being a furry is you can have sex with anyone.” Yogi looked at her and said, “I’m gay. Don’t you see me here with my boyfriend?” As you can see, stupidity plays into this, too.
This attitude can be encouraged by the atmosphere of the furcon. Furry conventions are often places where young and old furries go to their hotel rooms and have sex. A lot of this has to do with young furs who are managing to get out of from under their parents’ shadows and go a bit wild. To be fair, this is not unique to furry conventions. From what I’ve learned from other business convention attendees, a lot of sex and cheating goes on here. One time, Yogi was at a journalist convention. He opened up a closet door, looking for a conference room, and saw two people making out in it.
Yet another factor has to do with advances in HIV medicine. The advent of PreP (a medicine you can take to protect against HIV infection, although it doesn’t protect against any other STDs), as well as better treatment for AIDS patients has caused people to believe that HIV is no longer as dangerous and that, consequently, safe sex is not necessary.
The website [adjective][species] has a thoughtful article on the topic, too: http://www.adjectivespecies.com/2012/10/08/furries-hiv/. Here, the writer suggests some other factors, including that HIV is “scary,” so people do not like to talk about it, which makes them more ignorant of the facts and dangers. The article also suggests that the “incestuous” furry community has a higher rate of STDs within it, making infection more likely.
And there you have it.
Ignore your friends’ scorn, Toichi, and be the smart furry you are. Always play it safe.
Good information, being part of a fandom is no protection against disease.
1/6/2017 08:52:48 pm
Yes, of course syphilis is, but syphilis shows itself pretty quickly, and the list was about STDs that can be tricky and appear hidden. :-)
Not always, and who wants to be the one who goes blind or give it to their partner because they missed the symptoms?
1/7/2017 01:27:19 am
"Be a responsible sex partner: get tested! Have fun and be safe."
I'm truly sorry you haven't found someone, I know from personal experience how hard that is.
1/9/2017 01:53:24 am
Belief does not and cannot change reality. It's all in the personality you say? I'll have you know... I know a person who lives close to me who just happens to be, undoubtedly, the angriest, most abusive, clearly mentally unstable person I know. Treats everyone else, including me, as garbage. Even went as far as to physically assault it's parents (aside from the daily verbal abuse they receive). I am none of the previously mentioned. Oh, I feel as if it should be noted that the person is a she, and an astounding beauty to go along with that. Literally 20/10 in the looks department. She has a TON of guys lining in front of her door, seeking to be her significant other. I have never had any girl confess to me before, nor show any significant interest in me DESPITE the fact that I do volunteer work, help the homeless, sick, old and children, raise money for charity, am very considerate of other people's feelings, almost never swear nor attack other people verbally or physically. She is the polar opposite of me. She is the incarnation of the Devil himself, yet, she still manages to get better results in life EFFORTLESSLY. Solely due to her looks.
I didn't say it is all in the personality, and I'm the last person on Earth to promote the power of positive thinking. Putting words in other people's mouths will not endear you to anyone.
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