I was wondering something for a while. Ever since I joined the Furry fandom in 2009, I've been having trouble trying to figure out what kind of fur I am. I know it's feline, but I'm not sure what race. I've figured out White Tiger but... I really don't know. And I'm kind of tired of changing it so much. It's gone from pink cat, to cabbit, to leopard, to fox, and now white tiger.
So my question to you is, do you know how someone could discover that part of them?
Papabear understands such transitions. When I was a little cub, I was a wolf; then, as a teenager and 20-something, I was a dragon, and now I am a bear. I believe that many furries change species as they themselves change, which is particularly true as you grow through your teenaged years and discover who you are.
Don’t be upset if you can’t figure it out right away. One thing you can do, though, is learn more about the various species that catch your interest. Do some research on foxes, leopards, tigers, etc., and as you learn more about them you might discover which ones have traits most like your own.
Another, less scientific way is to think about your dreams. When you dream, do you ever dream about certain animals? When you do, do you feel a closer affinity to some rather than others?
You do not have to actually be dreaming, either, to feel a connection to certain species. While I am, of course, a bear, I have learned that I also have some connections to Owl because I've had personal experiences with them in my real life. This is not a bad thing. Indeed, if you believe at all in animal spirituality and the Medicine Wheel, it is healthy to balance certain animal aspects of yourself with other animals. I believe this is why some furries like hybrids.
So, Papabear’s advice to you would be to, first, relax and take time to explore your soul and your connection to other species. Educate yourself about animals and their behaviors. Be open to dreams and to your personal physical experiences as well. The more open you are to other animal spirits, the easier it will be for the spirit that most suits you to let you know that they are there for you, that they are your animal match.
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