Hello there, Papabear!
A furry friend of mine that has previously sent a letter regarding about going into an furcon has indicated this site for me to use if I have any questions. Anyways, let's cut to the chase.
I live in Brazil, Campo Grande, and I think I play videogames. A lot of videogames. My daily basis consists of playing shooter games, and the like. The real issue is, sometimes I put videogames above everything. Family, friends and even job. I used to skip job just because I had a event scheduled named 'Destiny'.
But since I know my boss, and he knows how videogames really are addicting, he gave me a second chance and I am still going to work daily. However, last day, I almost skipped work again due to another event I scheduled up. I went to work normally, did the stuff I did, but sometimes I fear that I might fire myself from my job just to go sit on the couch and play videogames. I literally can't stop playing those, and I have a vast variety of them, so if I get bored of one, no problem, I have another just ready to play ... but that's where the real bad things come in play.
I got this job out of total luck. When I was in college, I skipped so many hours of study for tests just to play a videogame. I have no clue how I took good grades (A to B) on the tests, but I wasn't worried that time. All I wanted was to arrive, sit, and play. And in case I had to turn off the computer to do something ... sometimes it better had to be important. Sometimes I ignored parents or friends while they were talking to me. I literally do not know how to stop with the videogames. I just keep playing them, more and more, yet I haven't contracted anything bad (sight issues and the like) Please help, because since my friend said so well about this website I decided to come take a look.
Anonymous (age 22, Brazil)
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Obviously, you have a videogame addiction. So, we know what the problem is, and that’s a start. I’ve known quite a few furries with game addictions, including to the point of not paying the bills and instead buying games to play. Financially speaking, such behavior is doomed, because eventually you will run out of money, get fired from your job, lose your friends, and then you won’t be able to play games anymore because you’ll be living under a bridge somewhere eating garbage from a dumpster. That’s one way to end a videogame addiction.
Videogame addictions are like any other addiction. You become obsessed with them because they offer you a reward that makes you feel good. And, just like an addiction to drugs or alcohol, you will eventually suffer from lack of money, friends and family leaving you, poor health, and so on. The first step in quitting—again, just like these other addictions—is that you have to want to quit.
You sound like you want to quit, but you’ll really need to commit to quitting if you wish to break this very bad habit. Here are some things you can do:
By employing these strategies, you should be able to wean yourself slowly off gaming. You could try cold turkey (stopping completely all at once), but that’s usually too rough for most people.
I hope you will find the above suggestions helpful. Good luck to you!!
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