Though I realized I was a furry many years ago, I've been out of the loop for quite a while. Unfortunately through my journey of life, I've all but lost the majority of connections to my former furry friends (which were mostly not local to me).
As I've been peeking here and there into current furry-themed sites and forums, I feel more of an outsider than anything. Part of that stems from me being a bit older (relative to the fandom, anyway), as I'll be turning 28 in just a couple of weeks.
At this age, I feel as if my ship has sailed as many furries around me would be in the early 20's (possibly even younger), so I'd be ostracized from any local groups.
Is there a good way to get my paws wet again and meet new faces as I'm someone who might be quickly fading out of the young crowd?
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Sounds like you’ve got an early case of Greymuzzle Syndrome. That’s where you’ve matured past the majority of furries, who tend to be teenagers and college students. The good news is there are a lot of Greymuzzles out there, and the number keeps growing. You are much more likely to feel part of this group than of the younger furries. I admin a group on Facebook called Greymuzzles, but we have a minimum age of 30 to join. However, you could join the Greymuzzle group on Furry4Life (http://furry4life.org/group/greymuzzles). I don’t think they restrict you by age there.
You issue isn’t that you can’t relate to furries, then; it’s that you can’t relate to the young ones. Check out the older crowd and start making some friends there. And when you hit 30, join the Greymuzzles on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/242876589134127/.
Good Luck! Have Fun!
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