After the Break Up, He's Ready to Get Back on the Horse

Hi there!

Where do I start?

About 2 months ago I broke up with my long-term boyfriend after 7 years. Despite everything, I really thought it was all okay but it's curtains for good on me and him now.

Being single after having his support for so long is terrifying and I would like nothing more than to be in a relationship again. I've spent the last two months picking myself back up and standing on my own two feet. I've broken down the imaginary house I'd built for me and my boyfriend in my head and left it bare, a clean slate to start over again with a new person... I'm still pretty shaky but my confidence is building back up slowly

I want a new relationship; the prospect is simultaneously terrifying and exciting, which tells me it's the right thing to do ... though should I wait until I'm 100% confident? Or just take the plunge? 

~Dino (age 24)

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Greetings, Dino,

I’m very sorry about your break up, but you seem to have a good attitude about moving ahead with your life instead of wallowing in the past. Good for you!

This is going to be a very short reply (Papabear is usually so long-winded, don’t ya know).

Dino, you can never be 100% confident. There are never any guarantees in life. While you shouldn’t just latch on to the next warm body that strolls by (the infamous “rebound relationship”), leave your heart open to love. Go out and live your life, and when someone does come along who tugs at your heart, let them reel you in.

Terrifying, exciting, cuddly, aggravating, heart-warming, life-giving. Love is all of these things and more.

You don’t need my help. You know what you want.

Hugs,

Papabear