I live in the Northeast and Valentine’s Day is coming up fast. I have promised my wife a memorable Valentine’s Day filled with dinner, a hotel room for the night, and a hot tub soak..... The issue I am having now is there have been these..."surprise expenses" that I seem to run into every week I get a paycheck. For example new shoes, replacement cell, and now I am going to need to buy a new belt..... I don’t make a lot of money and what I do make usually is gone by the end of the month. so my question is this....... How do I tell her I may have to take her out for a more memorable night later in the month (or later) without getting into a big fight or crushing her hopes.... I feel so lost and confused because she means a lot to me and I don’t want to see her sad....
-lonely & confused puppy
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It’s wonderful that you care about your wife and wish to make her happy. I’m sure she’s a lovely person, and, as a lovely person, she would love you whether you were a king or a pauper. As your spouse, she must surely also be aware of your income and that things may be tight because of some added expenses. I’m guessing that if you told her honestly what happened and that you are really sorry, she would understand.
But, you actually don’t have to disappoint her at all. Here’s what you do:
Takes a lot of effort? Yeah, it does, but you can do all of the above for a very reasonable price while giving your wife what she really wants: your time and love and appreciation and attention. Anyone can take their wife to a restaurant and a hotel. It takes a special guy to really show his wife she is worth a bit more effort than melting a credit card.
Have a Happy Valentine’s Day!
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