Dear Papa Bear,
So I just read your conversation with Lucian the Wolf and noticed you said you have multiple personalities.... I don't know if you meant that or if it was a joke, but I do and well I need some advice. My other personality ... her name is Jade and she scares me ... a lot. That's not really my problem though; my problem is I don't know whether or not to tell my mom about her because I'm afraid she won't believe me.... Jade isn't a problem for me unless she does something to mess with my life, which she doesn't really ever do.... You are one of the few people I have opened up to about this only because I need help and you seem like the kind of person who can.... Thanks. Sincerely, Anonymous * * * Hi, Anonymous, Well, it was actually a joke in that case, but what you're experiencing is not a joke. Have you approached a professional psychologist about this? Papabear * * * No... the only reason is because it isn't that bad of a case... * * * Hi, again, Even so, it is something you should consider, especially since you said that Jade "scares" you, which is not good. In the meantime, in order to help you (and, remember, I am not a trained psychologist or psychiatrist), please tell me more about your situation. When did you first start hearing from Jade? Under what circumstances does she make an appearance? You seem to indicate, in one line, that she can cause trouble, but in the next you say she doesn't. I need more examples of what is happening. Can you control Jade at all? Or is she beyond your control. Does she have an appearance or is she just a voice? Papabear * * * Papabear, Jade does scare me but it's only cause she didn't start doing things until I was in 6th grade and I'm not used to it.... Usually she comes out when I'm being harmed or if I get really angry, hurt, stressed, etc. She does cause trouble but it's nothing I can't hide. Depending on the circumstances I usually can control her, but sometimes she controls me. And I can tell you this that I know.... she is definitely NOT just a voice.... * * * Could you tell me about your family, school, and social life? * * * Well my parents are divorced and I have been through a few stepmoms who always made my dad beat me.... Also he kept me and my real brother from our mom until I was like 6. When I was in elementary school everything was fine, but then I was transferred and at a new school when I went into 5th grade.... I was ignored most of that year and also bullied.... The bullying didn't stop there, though. All through middle school I was bullied with very few friends. In 8th grade I was pushed to the point that I was ready to commit suicide. Things at home had gotten better especially after my dad met his new wife. But now since my dad can't hit me physically he does it emotionally, along with the rest of my family. Well, all except my real mom. In 9th grade I fell in love with someone but he moved shortly after and I haven't heard from him since. Currently, I am living with my mom now and will be going to a new school this year and I am terrified.... I have a bf who will be going to the same school, though, so I will be okay. I have told him about Jade, especially after he met her. He accepts me and still loves me all the same, which I find is a very good thing for me. * * * Thanks for confirming what I suspected: you've had a traumatic childhood and have been abused and bullied. It therefore makes sense that Jade has appeared. Jade is an aspect of your own spirit, and she appears in order to try to protect you, especially when you are angry or hurt. Sometimes, when the hurt is bearable, you can control her; other times, when it is worse, you can't control her, I would suspect. Trying to control the symptom of your problem (Jade) will not work in getting her to go away. You need to treat the cause of the problem, which is the abuse you are getting. Once you have stabilized your life and gained control of your own destiny, and once you have eliminated abusive, negative people in your life and have managed to surround yourself with loving, caring people, Jade will disappear. Make sense? Papabear * * * Papabear, It actually makes perfect sense... I don't know why I didn't think of that. Thank you so much. It also explains why she hasn't been out much... Ever since I left my dad's house to visit my mom (that's how it started then I ended up moving in with her) she hasn't appeared more then twice. You have helped me so much thank you a thousand and 41 times...
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