Ok, summer's ending and school starts very soon, like, in a few days soon. I'm super stressed about it, even though in my mind I know things will be fine and the year will turn out good, I just can't stop worrying. It's almost keeping me up at night thinking about the overwhelming social situations and amount of people. I'm kind of scared about the people part, mostly. I don't know about meeting new friends when I like the ones I have and how I should really start on making new ones. Another thing is that my classes are set up so that I'm not in with a lot of my friends. I don't want to be totally alone this year, so what can I do? Or am I just overreacting and worrying myself for no reason?
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It sounds to Papabear like you are suffering from a bit of social anxiety disorder. Since you are not stressed about classes and grades, you must be pretty confident about that, so that, at least, is one less thing to worry about.
About making new friends. From what you have written, you already have some friends, so it’s not like you are incapable of making new ones since the friends you have now, at one point, were new, yes? Also, you express that you don’t want to be alone, so you are not anti-social, which is a good thing.
First thing’s first: you need to try to stop obsessing about the new social situations you will be in. Try to continue your current life as if nothing much is changing: keep in touch with your current friends, make preparations for school, do your household routines, etc. Second, avoid things in your diet that make one naturally nervous, especially caffeine and too much sugar; make sure you get plenty of rest. Don’t smoke or do drugs (which should be a given, but they are also factors in stressing out the body); try meditation, too, by setting aside 10 minutes of calming reflection with a backdrop of soothing music; combine this with breathing exercises.
Next, think of how you made your current friends. Did you meet them at class or in some other social situation? Try to recall how you made those friends and use that as a model for making new friends. At the same time, don’t overthink the situation by trying to predict what might happen or what people might say about you. Don’t put the pressure on yourself of “I have to make new friends.” Instead, be yourself, get involved in the activities of school, both academic and social, and just make yourself available to new friendships. These things should come organically, so don’t force them.
If your anxiety gets really bad and the above suggestions don’t work, you might want some counseling, but somehow Papabear doesn’t think you’re that badly off and can probably handle it yourself if you just don’t overthink it and don’t worry about it so much. Here’s a little page that has more detail on what I just said above.
Good luck! Have fun at school!
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