7 Tips for a Good Relationship

Papabear,

Hello there, Papabear. I'm in my late 20's working to start a new relationship. And I was just wondering what your advice would be. On this the sort of relationship I'm trying to get in my life is a same-sex relationship. Any advice you have to give would be great. In closing, thank you for taking the time to read my message. Keep up the good work.

Anonymous

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Dear Furiend,

My advice to someone in a same-sex relationship is the same as it would be for someone in a hetero relationship (I've been in both, and the same principles apply to either). I could probably write a book on this, but I will spare you that much reading. Instead, I will give you one of my famous bulleted lists (in no particular order of importance):

7 TIPS FOR A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

1. Never take your partner for granted. A good loving relationship is hard to come by, so if you have found one, appreciate it.
2. Strive for an equal partnership. This means each of you contributes as much time and effort as the other one. 
3. If one of you makes more money than the other, that's okay, as long as you both do your part in things like maintaining the home.
4. When it comes to sex, be a giver, not a selfish lover, and expect the same from your mate. Sex between loving partners is a beautiful thing.
5. Make sure you are on the same page on the things you want in life. For example, if you want children but he doesn't, that's going to be a problem. If he wants to live in Florida, but you wish to stay near family in Wisconsin, also a problem. You need to talk these things through.
6. Make time for each other to do things you both enjoy. If a relationship is all work and no play, you will quickly tire of it. Try to do at least one fun and relaxing thing per week; more if you can.
7. It's okay to have time for yourself. You are not joined at the hip; you don't have to do EVERYTHING together.

Hope this helps! Wishing you love and happiness!

Papabear