I recently found out about furries ad I have became one because it makes me feel good and no longer shy. I have tails I use but I don't know how to explain to parents... I'm very nervous.
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I think you’re about the youngest furry to write me so far. Nice to hear from you :-3
The problem a lot of new furries seem to have is that they buy into the notion that being a furry is somehow bad or wrong just because it is not something most people do. Getting your mom and dad to understand that being a furry is just a fun thing and not a threat or scary in any way should be as simple as saying, “Hey, Mom and Dad, guess what? I like Bugs Bunny cartoons!” Who would be upset by that? And, as for wearing a tail and such, playing “dress up” is part of most kids’ childhoods, even those who aren’t furries.
I’d like you to watch this video from my friends at FurMedia. It is a parent explaining her reactions to and acceptance of her furry children:
You can show that to your parents, if you like.
As I’ve said in other letters, of course, telling your family about your furriness also depends on how open-minded they are. Some parents are very controlling, protective, and offended by anything out of the ordinary; other parents—the good ones—will see that being a furry makes you happy and they will support you. If your parents are like that, there is nothing to fear.
You can also aid in this process by learning more about furry and its history. You know, modern furry began simply as a bunch of sci-fi/fantasy buffs who liked anthropomorphic characters. They got together talked about books and movies that had characters who were animals but could also talk or had other human qualities. It continued from there to what it is today: an incredibly diverse fandom with people in it who have a wide range of interests.
Caution your parents that not all furries are the same, and make it clear to them what kind of furry you are.
If it will help, tell your parents they can write to Papabear and ask questions about the fandom. I would be happy to answer anything they would like to talk about.
Welcome to the fandom! Don’t be scared. You now have a furry family!
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