(Latest letter, July 29, 2014)

Papabear,

I am a submissive baby wolf puppy girl and love dressing in skirts and dresses, however, public outings are almost never an option as I wear diapers due to nerve damage. How can I become braver if I am so shy?

Sawina Swiftpaw (age 23)

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Dear Sawina,

This question is relevant to both those like you who wear diapers out of medical necessity and those who do it because they like to (ABDL or Adult Baby Diaper Lovers).

I admit I’m not an ABDL person, nor do I know anyone with incontinence problems, so I did a little Internet searching and found this article by Adrian Surley. She suggests a couple of things:

1. Begin slowly, start by wearing them out in public at night.
2. Wear thinner diapers if possible.
3. Start with baggier, loser-fitting clothes.
4. Try not to be self-conscious. Most likely, people won’t notice at all. If they do, most people are polite about it. They aren’t going to point and shout, “You’re wearing a diaper!”

Surley is an ADBL, and she notes that people really don’t act rudely, unless you’re also someone who wears baby clothes in public. THAT does draw attention.

Read Surley’s article and see if that helps. No pun intended, but take baby steps. Start with shorter times in public places and, as you get more comfortable, increase the amount of time you spend with others.

I’m sorry about your nerve damage. Having a medical condition is nothing to be ashamed of. If, for some reason, you do get asked (most likely if a small child sees the diaper somehow; kids don’t realize the questions they ask are sometimes inappropriate; they just ask because they want to know) just explain that you have to because of the nerve damage. Be frank. It’ll be okay.

Hugs,

Papabear

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